“Common looking people are the best in the world: that is the reason the Lord makes so many of them.”
Good old Abe was correct in saying this. We live in a world of plastic surgery, anorexic models, and those “good looking people” we are bombarded with on the media and even at the grocery store when waiting on line. Those magazines really can depress us. There was a survey that if a woman took 15 minutes in her day to glance at a magazine, or watch TV, she would get depressed about the way she looked. Well folks, its all camera and lighting! True there are many “beautiful” people in the media, but I’ve seen them without the lights, camera, makeup, etc. They are as ordinary as you and I. Yes, I can testify to this, but cannot tell you who they are because I cannot breach the confidentiality of my clients.
We are all common looking when you think of it. What really makes us shine? Is it the hairstyle, makeup, clothing? No, not at all, but the spirit within us that shines through. That special gift we all have inside that makes us unique is what people really see when they look at a picture or video of us. Think about it the next time you view someone on Youtube. Women especially get caught up in this. We are the ones that society dictates must have no wrinkles or grey hair, but must have plumpy lips (although, lately I think it is going out of style) and a size 3 body. That my friends is so NOT a true look. We tend to get down on ourselves for trying to live up to this lie.
Hey, let me tell you a little story about myself and overcoming this problem. A few years ago, I had a photo shoot for a postcard to send to my clients. There I was with a beautiful natural waterfall behind me. I had so much make-up on I felt it hanging on my face! But when I received the cards and looked at myself, I threw a hissy-fit. I actually cried and thought I was the ugliest human on the planet. That’s Me? So I kept those postcards down in my basement for a year.
One day, I said “to hell with this!” I took them up and sent them out. My campaign was more than successful. People were calling me just to say how wonderful I looked. I learned then not to be so uptight about myself. What I really want passionately is to run my business. Who cares if I’m self-conscious! No one read that through my picture. The response was that I looked so peaceful and happy.
SO HERE IS THE TRICK
Do Not think of how you look when you are speaking into your camera. Pretend that the lense is your best friend. Put that image in your mind and see your friend there. Talk to your friend as you would normally. And send your message out just like you were explaining it over a cup of coffee.
I’m sure you looked in the mirror before you sat in front of your camera. You are just fine – so go for it. Know that what people will really see is your sincerity; what they hear will be your content. You are there to teach them about something and that is why they are pressing that play button. Don’t be discouraged.
If this doesn’t work for you, try acting. ACT AS IF YOU DO NOT CARE! It may take a few takes, but the more you do it, the more comfortable you will be. Ever see the bloopers? If trained professionals make mistakes, so can you. And by all means … laugh at your bloopers!
Practice Practice Practice. Just get in front of that camera as much as you can and eventually it WILL become second nature.
Hope this helps you out.
You’re a genius and incredible person. The cameras tricks are amazing. I am a camera shy person so usually, I click scenery and pose my back. Thanks for the post. Next time I try to pose.
thank you for your great suggestions.
Yes, the media plays a big part in our conditioning.
Wouldn’t it be nice if school would do some intensive self esteem training around beauty that lies within. Parents can only do so much.
Imagining talking to our best friend when we are talking to the camera is great advice!
I am glad to be one of the common people and I wish I felt like that as a teenager.
Love and Light
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December 30, 2012 at 9:23 pm #
You are absolutely correct! I wish we had this when we were kids lol
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You are 100% right with this post. We are our own biggest critic, aren’t we? (I know I am!)
I watch other people in their videos thinking what a wonderful job they’ve done, putting themselves out there. I actually find the ones that don’t run quite “perfectly” rather endearing 🙂
My first YouTube video is me playing the piano (which is something that I don’t even do in front of a live audience very often!). Although people can only see my hands and arms, I was so incredibly nervous doing it.
It took a few takes to get one that I was happy enough with (noisy kids, husband walking in the door startling me, someone flushing the toilet! lol), but in the end, I uploaded the one that I did, even though I wasn’t 100% happy with it.
Ironically, I’ve had a terrific response to it even though I didn’t think it was quite “up to speed” so to speak! How funny is that? 🙂
~ Kylie ~
.-= Kylie Doak´s last blog ..Synchronicity: Random Coincidences … or Not? =-.
If you ever need more help on this, please do not hesitate to contact me. It’s something I have learned and can help you with it. Hey, we are all in this together.
I can certainly identify with your hiding the post cards in the basement for a year. That’s exactly how I feel every time I sit behind my Flip cam. You are absolutely right, however; it’s the message that counts, not the way we look.
Am going to carry your article with me today as I shoot the introductory video message for my blog.
Thanks for your support!
How did you do with your video? Hope it worked for you -Donna