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Entrepreneurs Have Holidays Too

 How does an entrepreneur handle holidays?


Being an entrepreneur and running a blog, or any online business for that matter, requires a consistent effort and a lot of your time.


But what happens to an entrepreneur when a holiday rolls around?  Do you continue your business, or take a break to enjoy your family and friends?  


Now, taking a break as an online entrepreneur can be a struggle.  I know… been there and done that.  It takes a bit of tweaking your mindset.


Here is a list of emotional feelings you may have when taking time off to enjoy family and holidays:


1.  Anxiety – That emotional feeling that takes over your body because of all the “should” feelings in your mind.  I should be posting something on the social sites, I “should” be updating my blog.  I “should” be checking who has opted into my product/sales.

2.  Guilt – Much the same feelings as anxiety, only you are beating yourself up on top of it.  Why?  Because you are sitting around with family and friends instead of working.  You cannot devote your full attention to your quality time with friends and family, because you are feeling guilty for not checking in on your phone or computer.  

3.  Worry –  Your mind goes to a “worry place” where you start thinking about lost sales, or you are not keeping up on your game.  Entrepreneurs may ask themselves “will my customers and readers still be there when I get back?”  

4.  Shame – Yes, you could even end up feeling ashamed for “not being there” to answer support questions from customers, assist a client with an important issue, or even make prompt replies to blog or Facebook comments.  Online businesses, of course, deal with people all over the world.  Customers, readers and clients may not be sharing your holiday and therefore wonder where you are.  You get the feeling of shame that you are not there for them.

5. Embarrassment –  Entrepreneurs may feel embarrassed that they are away from their businesses.  They may start thinking “what will people say about me if I’m not there?”  


Now these are only five examples of some feelings that entrepreneurs face when taking time off for holidays. 

Being an entrepreneur is all about being consistent and task oriented.  That mindset, if you’re doing things right, becomes a habit.  You can’t have an employee mindset, as in: someone else will take care of it when I’m away, like on weekends and during holidays.  No one will.  Recognizing that and developing an entrepreneurial mindset instead, is a good thing.  In fact, it’s essential.

But what happens when holidays roll around?  Taking some time off to enjoy a holiday can result in the conflicted feelings I listed above because you’ve actually become quite comfortable tending to daily tasks.  Sometimes, though, you’ve just got to learn to switch gears.


Here’s a few things you might try:

1.  When anxiety starts taking over your body and mind, recognize it.  Each time you start thinking “I should be….”  imagine that international NO symbol in your mind and stop thinking that way.   Instead, just focus on your well deserved time off.  Keep telling yourself “I deserve”…and switch that anxiety into peace.

2.  When feeling guilty, realize that guilt is a self imposed feeling.  It is not a reaction to reality as much as it’s just a time waster and energy drain.  It pulls you down and makes you feel like crap.  Realize that guilt can only come into your mind if you allow it.  So don’t!

3.  If you are spending your time worrying, then you are wasting your time!  A good entrepreneur applies time management techniques regularly.  So, understand that you are wasting time with worry.  It will get you nowhere!

4.  Shame is something you cannot allow as an entrepreneur.  The crux of it stems from what other people are thinking about you.  If you have that feeling, embrace it as a lesson that you need to rid of.  Know that you can please some of the people some of the time, but not all of the people all of the time.

5.  If you are feeling embarrassed by taking time off on your holiday whilst your international clientele isn’t, then let me ask you this: When you learn about folks from other cultures taking their time off for holidays in different places around the globe what are your thoughts?  You respect them and wish them well, right?  You may even want to participate in their joy.  So if you do that, don’t you think that they will do the same?  So my friends, there is no need for embarrassment.


I was inspired to write this post because I, too, struggle to get out of my habitual box of task oriented objectives when holidays and family functions are upon me.  I must admit, I have neglected lots of holidays because I had work to do.  Ha..what a joke!

When I do allow myself to break away from my business for holidays and family, I admit that I’ve struggled through some of the above feelings.  I do realize, though, that as an entrepreneur, I’ve well deserved time off for holidays.  I deserved to spend time with family and friends.  

Most of all, I deserved time for me!  

So, I abandon my personal “should” struggles and I just enjoy!  I like to do things spontaneously.  Hey, that’s why I got into being an entrepreneur many years ago.  For freedom to live by my own schedule and not somebody else’s, like when I was an employee.

So why not reap the rewards for having established a true entrepreneurial lifestyle?  Yes, it took me a while, but I am there now.

This past holiday was one with no plan in mind.  That is the best kind for me.  So I ended up just kicking around the beach, going out for dinner, and taking time to talk to my neighbors.


But the very best thing I did was this (True Confession): While food shopping, I noticed a whiffle ball set.  I haven’t played whiffle ball since I was a kid.  So I bought it, and hubby and I spent some time playing in our yard.  

So, let’s raise a glass… here’s to the holidays!  Here’s to living the entrepreneur lifestyle!  And, here’s to you my friends!

Now, tell the truth, what do you do on holidays?  Work or play?


P.S.  Yep..that IS me playing Wiffle Ball   

Donna Merrill
Donna is a well known blogger and creator of "Blogging Magic" - an intensive guide to blogging. "Blogging Magic" is for beginners who are trying to figure out how to bring their blogs to life with tons of visits, comments and social media interaction. It's even for advanced bloggers looking to reach new levels of authority and engagement with their audience.

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76 Responses to Entrepreneurs Have Holidays Too

  1. Willena Flewelling
    June 29, 2014 at 4:48 am #

    You would think that since I am a mom of 7, I would be a great one for making birthday parties and providing a focal point for everyone to get together for other special occasions. But alas, this is not so. Especially now that all but one of our children has a full time job, it is increasingly difficult to get everyone together. But when we do… it’s wonderful!

    Just a week ago, our son Andrew’s friends asked if they could throw a surprise birthday party for him here at our place. We live in the country and have a huge yard. We had a blast! Two of our daughters couldn’t be here because of work, but we had a good gathering here.

    It’s really tough for me to leave anything and go out to a get-together, but I’m always glad when I do.
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  2. Rachel Lavern
    June 20, 2014 at 8:04 pm #

    Hi Donna,

    I never heard of ‘wiffle ball’ but, since I see what looks like a bat, I assume it is a game similar to softball?

    I am a pro when it comes to enjoying the holidays and have never experienced any of the emotions you listed when I do (yay!). I have never worked during the holidays. Oh wait, there was that Christmas directly after graduating college where I had a part-time job where they put me on the schedule to work. If memory serves me, I quit before Christmas actually arrived 🙂

    I spend a lot of time away from my business and, while my income takes a dive while am away, it is usually transparent to my clients. For the online part, I pre-schedule blog and social media posts also. Depending on how long I am away, I will have my aide monitor and respond to the online posts.

    Time off recharges my batteries. Everyone deserves days off every now and again, right. One of the favorite quotes I say to my dad is by Brendan Gil: “Not a shred of evidence exists in favor of the idea that life is serious.” (My lifestyle is little hedonistic in some ways)
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  3. Rosemary O'Shaughnessy
    June 14, 2014 at 9:19 am #

    Hi Donna ,

    Well said entrepreneurs need a holiday if they do not have a break and to tired they are not good for there business or family’s.

    It is something most people find very difficult to switch off. I find it is very important speaking from experience and I am very lucky to have a collie who reminds me it is time to enjoy the outdoors play and fun.

    Enjoy the summer and time away from your computer .

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    • Donna Merrill
      June 16, 2014 at 2:21 pm #

      Hi Rosemary,

      I love when I see pictures on Facebook of your collie. Such a beautiful dog! I know how dogs remind us to get our hands off the keyboard and take them for a walk. I have two, so you can just imagine lol.

      Entrepreneurs live and breath their business and that’s fine, but there does come a time where they need to turn that switch off and change their mindset to something other than business.

      I’m having a blast so far this summer, living in “vacationland” Sure beats going on vacation because it is vacation every day he he he.

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      • Rosemary O'Shaughnessy
        June 16, 2014 at 3:17 pm #

        Hi Donna,

        I love your line about living in vacation land and having your dogs. I also feel very lucky having lots of beautiful places to go easily for my walks . Last week I alternated between the seaside and lush country side.

        We are also very lucky to enjoy our work and work with fantastic people.

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        • Donna Merrill
          June 17, 2014 at 11:05 pm #

          Hi Rosemary,

          We sure are blessed and I’m grateful for that each day. It must be so beautiful there especially the country side. My sister-in-law just took a 3 week trip to your neck of the woods and was raving about how fantastic it was to be there.

          I love seeing your pictures on Facebook. The one with your dog walking on the ground filled with buttercups was priceless.

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  4. Kyle Nelson
    June 9, 2014 at 2:55 pm #

    i couldn’t have read this article at a better time in my life. In two week i will be taking 9 days of for a vacation to visit some family. This family doesn’t have internet connect so I am a bit worried on how I am going to get by. I am hoping that I cant truly try to unplug for the trip but i know that will not be the case. I have told myself that I allow myself 1 hour of work a day just to do some essential stuff (mainly emails).
    I am hoping I can just get what i need to get done every morning and then forget about it til the next day! Thanks for the wonderful tips 🙂
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    • Donna Merrill
      June 9, 2014 at 10:56 pm #

      Wow Kyle,

      Being unplugged for 9 days is what I call vacation! An hour a day is fine to just check up on things, but I sure hope that you can focus on you.

      After those nine days, I’m sure you will come back and be more productive. Have a great time!

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  5. Andy Lockhart
    June 6, 2014 at 8:59 am #


    Great post and thanks for sharing. These emotion do run in people when they take holidays, as an entrepreneur or even small business owner your business lives or dies by what you do.

    On the flip side when I worked in corporate America my company would call me if I was on holiday or not. Not that I felt guilty about taking the holiday it was just nothing was off limits to them. Sad that they took that attitude.

    Thanks Again

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  6. Sarah Arrow
    June 3, 2014 at 11:11 am #

    Inspiring Donna, I’ve loved seeing all those beach pics on Facebook so I know you’ve enjoyed your break. What on earth is wiffle ball btw? I don’t think we have that over here 🙂
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    • Donna Merrill
      June 4, 2014 at 11:22 am #

      Hi Sarah,

      I noticed you seen my goofy pictures on Facebook lol. As for wiffle ball…it is a light weight plastic bat that comes with a light weight plastic ball with slits in it to catch the wind.

      It is like baseball, but played outdoors usually in warm weather, on the beaches, in parks, even in our own back yards.

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  7. Donna Merrill
    June 2, 2014 at 5:08 pm #

    Hi Holly,

    Good to know you are getting better at these feelings. Anxiety, worry, and guilt can stop you in your goal setting. Worse, it can make you feel crappy. At least you have identified it. Now…work on it girl!

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  8. Holly
    June 2, 2014 at 2:51 pm #

    Well I must admit Donna… that depends.. sometimes I take off and take the holiday… other times.. i’d say I work it… but I often go through those little things you mentioned… Anxiety, worry and guilt… But i’ getting better at it!!
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  9. Ashley
    June 2, 2014 at 9:46 am #

    Hi Donna
    I am starting to struggle with this as well, and find it hard to let go when I should.
    But I think it comes down to being disciplined and prepared. If you have it all under control when you go on vacation or take a day off, then it should be ok.
    The rest, as you say, like social media and they like, people will forgive you for, if they even notice.
    Let’s all take a breath and a break :>
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    • Donna Merrill
      June 2, 2014 at 7:32 pm #

      Hi Ashley,

      I have noticed that many people do struggle with this one. Like you, they find it difficult to let go. But when you have all your ducks in place, it is easy.

      After a while you start to get used to it and give yourself more time. Then, you become refreshed and focused.

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  10. Chery Schmidt
    June 1, 2014 at 11:51 pm #

    Hello Donna, I also loved this post, I can relate to everything you have stated here,, Yes I do tak e vacations but My computer comes right along with me LOL…

    I find it funny that we feel the need to still post on Social media or to get that blog post out but we do HUH?

    I guess this is why we choose to become entrepreneurs though HEHE I guess it beats the alternative.. Punching a time clock and working for someone else.

    Thanks for sharing..Chery :))
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    • Donna Merrill
      June 2, 2014 at 11:33 am #

      Hi Chery,

      I would take my computer with my on vacations too, and check in a bit. But for the most part, I enjoy being unplugged and taking the time just to be with ME!

      As long as you are not spending too much time on your computer when you are on vacation, it is OK. We do get that urge don’t we lol.

      And yes, it is surely better than punching a time clock!

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      • Chery Schmidt
        June 15, 2014 at 7:17 pm #

        Hello Again Donna, I just read a blog post over on Harleena’s blog where she stated the importance of unplugging from blogginf on vacation.. I am going to take her advice next month when I take my vacation and not take my computer or phone.. I k now I will have some catching up to do when I come back but I do agree this will be good to get away..

        She does suggest that we do let everyone know before we leave with a blog post about this as well as a notice on our social media sites..

        Chery :))
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  11. David Merrill 101
    June 1, 2014 at 10:36 pm #

    Yea, it’s a good life when you take responsibility for running your own business, isn’t it?

    We work really hard, no doubt… but we can take breaks or days off whenever we want. The problem is, we love our online business so much that we rarely want to take time away.

    I think that goes a long way in alleviating any guilt, or second thoughts about having fun on holidays!
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    • Donna Merrill
      June 2, 2014 at 11:31 am #

      Hi David,

      Nice to see you on my blog for a change lol.

      Well, as my whiffle ball partner, I must say that you and I are both passionate about our business. But, we also have to take time away.

      Want to take a walk on the beach with the dogs?

      he he he

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  12. Dr. Erica Goodstone
    June 1, 2014 at 12:25 am #


    So true. As entrepreneurs building an online presence, we tend to spend hours and hours in front of the computer. It becomes difficult to not come back to at least check what has been happening, to find out what others are up to. Lately, I have taken more time off – not just for holidays. I spend a certain amount of time and then I say “Enough” and close down the computer, head off somewhere to relax or do something else. Taking days off, without clearing out emails, does not cause me a sense of guilt or shame, but I do worry about the number of incoming emails to sort through if no done consistently for a few days.


    Dr. Erica
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    • Donna Merrill
      June 2, 2014 at 11:29 am #

      Hi Erica,

      I know from Facebook that you are checking into your health club often, eating well, and so on. That is so much more important than being a slave to your computer.

      I would say that you are living a good balance in your life. I too spend a certain amount of time and say “enough” and close my computer down. No guilt here!

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  13. Yorinda Wanner May 31, 2014 at 11:15 pm #

    Hi Donna,
    I hope your post will reach a lot of entrepreneurs, since this is such an important message.

    Your suggestions are awesome and obviously come from a heartfelt place!

    Thank you so much!
    Love and Light!
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    • Donna Merrill
      June 2, 2014 at 11:27 am #

      Hi Yorinda,

      I hope so too. I see too many people glued to their laptops and phones all the time. I cannot imagine being plugged in all the time.

      I need to live life as much as I need to live my passion of business.

      Thanks so much,

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  14. Leslie Denning
    May 31, 2014 at 2:47 pm #

    So what’s the fun of being an entrepreneur if you can’t go on a holiday, Donna? When I first thought about a home business, I took virtual assistant training. Then I realized that I’d be working for someone else, even though I had a home business. Too confining. That’s why I went with affiliate marketing.

    The whole point of working from home is freedom. If you are a slave to your business because of an incorrect mindset, you are kind of missing the point.

    I’m always taking days off for this and that – spending time with friends, my daughter, my husband, grandkids, plus my husband and I go on a cruise every year. While I’m on the cruise, I might work on some training courses, but I only purchase enough internet credit to check email once or twice in 7 days. I want to enjoy my time with my husband and not be glued to electronic devices.

    Thanks for your article. Hopefully, someone who is struggling with these issues will get over them.

    All the best,
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    • Donna Merrill
      June 2, 2014 at 11:25 am #

      Hi Leslie,

      Yes you have hit the nail on the head when you wrote “The whole point of working from home is freedom.” That’s what I learned when I first came into this business.

      I too take time off for spending time with my husband, family, friends. Now, especially since I moved to a beach area, I’m walking it all the time and enjoying my freedom.

      I have a pretty good Daily Method of Operation whereby, I do check in social sites three times a day, keep up with my blog, and now spending more time on the marketing edge.

      But, taking time off is so important just as eating well. Without guilt, should’s or the rest of those feelings.

      Isn’t the Entrepreneur’s life grand?

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      • Leslie Denning
        June 7, 2014 at 1:29 pm #

        Yes, the life is grand. Next week, it’s all the younger grandkids at the Lake. So glad to have the freedom to help my daughter while the oldest one goes to church camp and can’t sit the younger ones.

        The only thing the Missouri Ozarks is missing is an ocean – but I guess you can’t have everything!

        All the best,
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  15. Mi Muba
    May 31, 2014 at 12:48 pm #

    Hi Donna
    Thanks for sharing this awesome post that really covers an important aspect of our life which we neglect while doing online work.
    It has become irrationally common that if you are so passionate of your job you don’t think is it working day or weekend. It is wrong to think like that. Howsoever passion we have for our work but after all we are human being. Can we defer our hunger or thirst for a longer period of time just to keep doing our work of passion. If we do it is wrong or rather stupid by all means to give pain to your body just for pleasure of our soul. By the way why we want to pleasure our soul. We want to make our whole life happier that is why we want eternal bliss but it doesn’t mean we shelve an important need just for the sake of another.
    Once again thanks a lot for pointing at an important issue with offering its perfect solution.
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    • Donna Merrill
      June 2, 2014 at 11:19 am #

      Hi Mi Muba,

      Thank you for your input. Yes, we can be so passionate about our work, that we forget the most important things in our life to take care of. You are absolutely correct. We cannot starve ourselves over our work.

      Yes, we must think of how to fulfill our soul’s desires. It is all about balance and when we find ourselves having these emotions, we need to address them and find a solution.

      Thanks again!

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  16. Sherryl Perry
    May 30, 2014 at 3:46 pm #

    Good for you for taking the day off to celebrate Memorial Day! I did too and I’m going to be taking some more time off during the next two weeks. (My husband will be on vacation and I’m prioritizing time with him.)

    We always say life is too short but then many times, (as our own boss), we set unrealistic expectations for ourselves. My “AHA!” moment came to me a few months ago when our grand-baby was visiting. My husband and daughter were in the other room playing with her while I was here in my office conforming to some self-inflicted deadline.

    Sure, if a client needs something from me, that’s a priority but if I miss blogging for a week, would it really be the end of my blog? Will I lose traffic and not recover? I think I’ll be all right. I know that well deserved breaks can raise our spirits and help bring us closer to our family. I say, if your mind/body is telling you to take a break . . . listen. 🙂

    Thanks for blogging about this!
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    • Donna Merrill
      June 2, 2014 at 10:58 am #

      Hi Sherryl,

      Thanks for sharing your situation. I can see that AHA moment you have had. Yes, life is too short and as an entrepreneur, we do our self-inflicted deadlines.

      We then get into a habit of it and miss out some important things in life. I am glad to know that you are taking time off.

      If you miss a blog post, it won’t be the end of the world because all will be here when you get back.

      Yes, my mind/body has been telling me to slow down and do more for me…and that’s what I’ve been incorporating in my lifestyle.

      I’m in a better work pattern now than I’ve ever been.

      Happy times!

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  17. Monna Ellithorpe
    May 30, 2014 at 10:40 am #

    Hi Donna,
    I have those same feelings too. I should be working; I should be with family. Thanks for the tips to help us enjoy the reason we work online.

    Have a great day, Monna
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    • Donna Merrill
      June 2, 2014 at 10:49 am #

      Hi Monna,

      As I always say “should” should be taken out of our vocabulary. Once we get the shoulds, we are only stepping in our own way.

      Should is a time waster and it opens doors for us to feel guilty. Take that word out of your mind and you will see after a while, you can be more balanced and not feel guilty, but feel more peaceful.

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  18. Mark
    May 30, 2014 at 6:38 am #

    Well said Donna:

    Although truth told, the five emotions you list are definitely the ones that are concerned and very dedicated entrepreneur would have!

    It’s the wannabe bloggers/Internet marketers that would most definitely have these
    same feelings, only they’re experiencing the exact same feelings,
    because they’re seeking to justify doing little or nothing!

    Especially when it comes to consistently working on holidays!LOL!

    Kudos to you that you’re able to enjoy something as simple as wiffle ball, because you felt like it!

    Working hard on holidays or not! The rewards are definitely worth it! Thanks for sharing!
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    • Donna Merrill
      June 2, 2014 at 10:47 am #

      Hi Mark,

      As you well know me…I’m working all the time. I live and breathe what I love to do. But, it is so important to feed my soul too.

      People that have jobs do it, so why not the Entrepreneur? We work hard and need to play hard. It’s all about balance.

      Now, that I’ve given myself more permission to take more time for me, things seem to be running more smoothly in my business.

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  19. Sue Price
    May 30, 2014 at 2:41 am #

    Hi Donna

    This is such a good post and I totally have experienced all those emotions. Even before my online world in our businesses I used to take work home, go to the office weekend and feel guilty even taking a break. I was only an employee for a short part my life but unlike what Kumar said I had the same thing going on.

    We all need to take time out and we need to unplug. I am glad you did that last weekend.

    I saw you mention the whiffle ball on Facebook and maybe we call them something different here but what is it?

    A great message Donna that most of us with online businesses need to read.

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    • Donna Merrill
      June 2, 2014 at 10:31 am #

      Hi Sue,

      Thanks so much for sharing how you have felt in the past. As for Whiffle Ball, it is a light plastic bat and a light ball with holes in it.

      The air carries the ball quite swiftly and it is like baseball without all that heavy equipment.

      It is something that most of us here in the U.S. are familiar with, usually played on the beach or in a yard because of the light weight.

      When I seen it in the supermarket, I just couldn’t pass it up. That child in me said “go for it” and I did.

      We have been playing in our yard and it feels great!

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  20. nick catricala
    May 29, 2014 at 6:53 pm #

    has been a while I do not get the pleasure to come to your blog and read what you have to offer.. as always this time was no exception. you sure know what you are talking about and know how to lay it done for everyone (especially me haha 🙂 to get it.

    All what you wrote is present in every entrepreneur online and offline.. so what is my answer or my strategy to keep going and or to take a holiday?

    It is very simple.. since I live alone.. I have a choice to work and take holiday from work at any times… and since I have done it for so long, it is some how ingrained in me..

    Ho yes, I still experience those great “emotional feelings” both for working too hard and for observing holidays… so ,y answer is.. I do my best and move on as feel comfortable and when I am cut into a situation that I need to act.. I do it.. what ever there is to do it even if it is 2am or a holiday…

    Very different eh??? Well, I am a different species haha 🙂

    Donna, you are doing great with your diligence.. success is yours… and for people like me, well.. I am successful as well but a little differently.

    Thanks for bring this topic in the open.. for certain will help many people and yes, it helped me as well because I made some notes about certain parts that I believe it is better to make adjustment.

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    • Donna Merrill
      June 2, 2014 at 10:19 am #

      Hi Nick,

      I think it is great that you have a choice Nick! You live alone and can spend the holiday at leisure or work if you feel like.

      You have the freedom to do what you please and I know you do! Your lifestyle is amazing, especially the way you help others.

      As for you, you walk the walk as they say. You are an inspiration to me because of your special lifestyle of eating so well, exercising, and having control over your own body. And most importantly your integrity and honesty.

      Thanks for stopping by,

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  21. William Butler
    May 29, 2014 at 4:31 pm #

    Hi Donna,

    What I do is so much like a vacation, especially from what I used to do.

    When we go away, I just send out a little notice… “Off the grid” and catch up when we return.

    This frees me up to BE in the moment, as you did in rediscovering the joys of whiffle ball.

    Is it really a break at all if you can’t leave all your pressing matters behind?

    All the best!
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    • Donna Merrill
      May 29, 2014 at 11:16 pm #

      Hi Bill.

      Glad to know that you can take time off with ease! Lots of folks just get so caught up that they cannot break away.

      Being in the moment is necessary each day. Even taking a short break helps.

      As for the joy of whiffle ball…I cannot tell you how elated I felt playing it. Not bad for this old gal!

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  22. Donna Merrill
    May 29, 2014 at 3:26 pm #

    Hi Susan,

    Same goes here, it all depends on the holiday and what I choose to do. Our kids live miles away, some are even in California three thousand miles away. To visit them would have to be a planned trip. Yes, If I was going to spend that much time away I would bring my laptop and check in periodically.

    But for a short holiday, or just a few days, I can now be unplugged and not peek.

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  23. Susan Cooper
    May 29, 2014 at 12:00 pm #

    I agree, we all need a break sometimes. For me, it all depends on which holiday it is – does it revolve around family, do I have plans to go somewhere, etc. If I do, I’ll definitely take a break without feeling worry and anxiety about it. However because I really enjoy what I do, if I don’t have any specific plans for a holiday, I would definitely considering posting. It’s nice to have that flexibility.
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  24. Corina Ramos
    May 28, 2014 at 10:29 pm #

    Hi there Donna,

    I’m so glad I’m not alone on this one. I admit I took a peek at my email on Monday and wouldn’t you know it, I got caught up doing other stuff. I had to pull myself away from my desk.

    The one thing I have when I’m spending time with the family is guilt. I feel like I should be online learning, sharing and being social.

    And the other thing I start to do is worry. I worry that I’m not getting my name out there and that people will start to lose interest in me, oh and of course the loss in sales. 🙂

    My husband is good at reminding me why I started working from home in the first place and that’s when it all comes into perspective.

    I still use the word “might” when I mention taking some time off but I hope to change that and realize it’s okay to take time off. My husband teases me and says “No one’s gonna write you up babe” LOL.

    Thanks for sharing these suggestions to overcome those awful feelings. Happy Wednesday Donna. I hope you’re having a great week!
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    • Donna Merrill
      May 29, 2014 at 3:20 pm #

      Hi Corina,

      It is a great thing that your husband helps you out with the feelings of worry and the “shoulds” because that is why you started working from home in the first place.

      I would suggest to rid these feelings that you segment your time. A good time management calendar would work well for you.

      Work in blocks of time, and when you are with your children, just focus on them. When the “shoulds” come along, remind yourself that it is negative thinking.

      We all have this happen to us, but it is all about having the mindset that we “deserve” our time.
      I just came back from a swim and feel great. Now that was a decision. I was in the middle of many things on line and really didn’t want to break the flow. But…2:00 is when I go for a swim.

      Now, I’m back and into my routine. BTW…feeling great!

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  25. Dawn Golden
    May 28, 2014 at 8:11 pm #

    Oh no! I experience those 5 emotions every morning… before I get out of bed – never mind on a holiday or day off! Talk about ‘self imposed’ stress. I recently posted about our family tradition for a “Popper” day. If you have a chance, do a search for it on my site. You might enjoy it!
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    • Donna Merrill
      May 29, 2014 at 1:25 pm #

      Hi Dawn!

      Yikes…Girl you have to rid those emotions! There is no need for stress in our lives. When it comes up, we have to find a good way to rid it. The good thing is that you acknowledged it. Once you do, then you can find a way to eliminate it.

      Being an entrepreneur can bring these emotions with it. But after a while it does lead to burnout. Now, you are too good for that!

      Maybe start with one thing a day. One thing you do for YOU, even if is for one hour. Self talk is a good way to rid these emotions too. When you find yourself thinking the shoulda coulda woulda kinds of things, tell yourself STOP! And grab a good affirmation or anything you can to replace that thinking process.

      Here is to your emotional fee mind! 🙂

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  26. Dr. Diana
    May 28, 2014 at 6:53 am #

    Hi Donna,

    I love holidays so much.

    I love to go hill station for Holiday celebrations. My family and friends go with me.

    Bloggers and business owners should take care of their health by enjoying holidays and go with friends.



    • Donna Merrill
      May 28, 2014 at 3:53 pm #

      Hi Dr. Diana,

      Welcome to my blog. Blogging and Entrepreneurs need to take breaks on holidays and more in order to stay balanced.

      We talk about health issues all the time, but do we actually take action and do the exercise, eat the right foods and especially, relax our minds?

      I like to take action!

      Thanks for visiting,

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  27. Nanda Rahmanius
    May 28, 2014 at 5:31 am #

    Hi Donna,

    I love the title of your article. Why?
    Because I’ve just spent the holidays with my friends, he he he.. 😀
    I’m touring with a motorcycle together with my friends and hiking to the waterfall which is located in the jungle. It was great fun!

    As you said, the holiday is a holiday. For me, holidays are times when I am away from my laptop. For one day, I don’t want to be near my laptop. I want to refresh everything, refresh my eyes, refresh my body and refresh my mind as well 🙂

    Nice to see you write about this, Donna.
    It’s great article, indeed!

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    • Donna Merrill
      May 28, 2014 at 3:51 pm #

      Hi Nanda,

      To me holidays are not only the ones on a calendar, but when I feel like taking a break too.

      How wonderful that you are touring on motorcycle , hiking to the waterfall in a jungle. What fun!

      I’m sure that this trip will surely clear your mind. Being unplugged and getting in touch with nature has a funny way of doing that!

      When you return, you sure will be focused and have new ideas flowing.


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  28. Becc
    May 27, 2014 at 10:38 pm #

    I used to have this issue and then my father passed recently and I was forced to shut things down. Guess what (much to my disgust) the world did not stop revolving. We all need holidays and mini breaks or otherwise, what is the point?
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    • Donna Merrill
      May 28, 2014 at 3:42 pm #

      Hi Becc,

      I just read your recent blog post and found out your dad had passed. So sorry for your loss. When things like this happen you need time for YOU.

      Mourning is a healthy process and you need to take all the time you need to go through it. This is one fine example why we, as bloggers, need to step away and take car of ourselves.

      When you return, all we be here to welcome you back.

      My thoughts and prayers are with you,

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  29. Adrienne
    May 27, 2014 at 10:30 pm #

    Hey Donna,

    Yep, I did feel some of those feelings myself. Guilt, unsure, uneasiness, all those things came rushing in but I had a few friends that pushed me to take yesterday off. They reminded me that I’m always online, I’m always doing the right things, I’m always making those connections, I’m always working and I need a break. It really didn’t take too much convincing but I guess because I have taken some time off before now and I did realize that my world is not going to come crashing down.

    We all need that I know whether we love what we do or not. We can schedule our clients around the holidays and it’s not a necessity to work on that day.

    I appreciate you sharing this and you know we were thinking somewhat the same thoughts. You spelled it out so much better though so thanks.

    I bet you and David had fun playing whiffle ball now. Yay!!!

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    • Donna Merrill
      May 27, 2014 at 11:15 pm #

      Hi Adrienne,

      You are the most organized and persistent person I know. You handle your business well. But part of that is taking breaks with a clear conscious. I think you have learned that lesson during the last holiday season when you lost your best friend.

      You took a well needed break then and everyone was here when you came back.

      As for our clients, I like to schedule them on my time so I can give them the best I can. I am a stickler of me calling them. I’m very punctual and notice others are not. If they are in their car,
      or running late, I do have a 10 minute timeline that I can call them back. If it is over that time, they have to be re-scheduled.

      I have clients from different directions and spend lots of time talking on the phone or on skype. If I let them call the shots, I could never do all that I can. I like to do my calls in chunks of time.

      And…the one thing I’m doing lately is taking more time for me! I find it more productive at the end of the day.

      Cheers to us!
      See you Thursday,
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  30. Marquita Herald
    May 27, 2014 at 8:11 pm #

    Oh I love it, and what a great photo of you Donna! Of course I’m also a member of the “been-there-done-that” club but I didn’t learn to have a “life” until after a decade of working myself quite literally to the point of being ill, overweight, and drinking w-a-y too much to numb the pain of working in a job I despised. Oh I still work obscene hours, but there are a couple of key differences … 1) I absolutely love what I’m doing and wake up raring to go instead of having to drag myself out of bed 2) I have no problem walking away when I need me time. Good for you and thanks for all you do to inspire us!
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    • Donna Merrill
      May 27, 2014 at 11:08 pm #

      Hi Marquita,

      He He I like putting goofy photos of me up on my blog. Just showing my readers I do walk the walk lol.

      I’ve been working on myself forever …and still do! Growth is so important to me. If I’m not growing, how can I ever help someone else?

      I appreciate you sharing your “story” but hey we all have been there and done that. Glad to know you love what you do. I know that feeling so well.

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  31. Neamat Tawadrous
    May 27, 2014 at 3:44 pm #

    Hi Donna,

    I am so happy to come back to your blog after a long time!! And what a coincidence as I just came from Adrienne’s blog and she wrote about the same thing.

    Well, I have to tell you that whenever I take a break from work, I am forced to take it and I go through all the emotions you just listed above plus I ask myself the question: “What did I get myself into?” and I just started my Entrepreneurial journey about 2 years ago.

    Even with taking the break, your mind isn’t taking that break, it just keep thinking and worrying “I should’ve”, “I could’ve” and I “would’ve” and we don’t enjoy the time that we take off that we are supposed to enjoy with family or friends.

    I know we all need to take a break from time to time to renew our energy and be more productive and thanks for the tips to get over those feelings. I find it hard, but I will definitely try them and enjoy my holidays! My family booked a cruise for a week in August and I have never been a whole week away from work but I will try to enjoy it and practice those tips.

    Thanks for another great and practical post as always Donna!!

    Be Blessed,

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    • Donna Merrill
      May 27, 2014 at 4:36 pm #

      Hi Neamat,

      I think we really need to take the should have, could have and would have’s out of our vocabulary! These words stop us in our path. When our minds go there, we need to stop, and identify what we are thinking.

      I had to learn this myself, but it all starts with the thinking process. Once we master that, we can act upon it with out anxiety, guilt, fear or any other thoughts or feelings that can get in our way.

      Now you go and enjoy your cruise in August. All you have to do is post it up on your blog and social sites.

      We will all be here when you get back. So unplug…focus and enjoy the entire process and no peaking at your phone lol.

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  32. Shalu Sharma
    May 27, 2014 at 2:22 pm #

    Hi Donna
    breaks are important otherwise we are going to crash. I know what you mean about feeling anxious and the feeling that you should be doing something. But we shouldn’t, we all need breaks otherwise we will loose that productivity. Perhaps you can take your laptop with you and do all the social media activities on your holiday.
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    • Donna Merrill
      May 27, 2014 at 3:40 pm #

      Hi Shalu,

      Absolutely! If we don’t take breaks we do crash and that will hinder our productivity. Feeling anxious brings on the “shoulds” and that is one word we need to eliminate from our vocabulary because it just doesn’t do us any good at all.

      I do take my laptop with me if I’m away for a long period of time, just to check in. But taking a few days off, and being unplugged sure did me a world of good. It even brought out the inner child in me which I acted upon.

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  33. sherman smith May 27, 2014 at 2:16 pm #

    Hey Donna,

    As I was reading this post, two words came to mind… Alignment and Balance! When the holidays come by, most of us entrepreneurs just keep on working instead of enjoying them. For me, the more I did this, the more I became out of tough with my family, friends, and myself. Just getting the work done was more importment, although deep inside, I really wanted to enjoy myself.

    But later on, i figure the work isn’t going to go no where, and my loyal readers of my blog will understand if I take a break or two. We all need this time once and a while. I think this is another reason why they came up with holidays. We all need this break to be ourselves instead of like programmed robots willing to work each day no matter what day it is!

    Thanks for sharing Donna!
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    • Donna Merrill
      May 27, 2014 at 3:38 pm #

      Hi Sherman,

      Alignment and Balance is what we do achieve when we take a break. I’m glad you reached that point.

      Yes, I too remember the days where my nose was to the grindstone and I didn’t miss a beat. But then I asked myself this question: “Why am I doing this when all I’m trying to do is live a life of freedom?”

      The AHA moment came to me and now I don’t carry any of those negative feelings thank God!

      Taking a break is all about balance!

      Thanks for your input.

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  34. Kumar Gauraw
    May 27, 2014 at 1:26 pm #

    Hi Donna,

    What a coincidence (or, may be not!). Adrienne wrote on the same topic and here I come to find similar theme on your blog again 🙂

    But truth be told! Yes, I do have those feelings when I take a break from my business for family or spiritual or, even when I go out to play once in a while.

    But then, let’s be honest, we also have the same feelings when we go out of our home alone leaving our family (wife/husband/children loved ones at home) for a few days. Don’t we?

    It simply means we are human and that we love what we do.

    Well, answer me this one –

    When was the last time you had the same feelings (any of them in true sense) while working for your employer (if you worked for someone)?

    I don’t think so! I think we have mixed feelings of Happiness and Joy when we go out on a vacation from job. Why? Most of us do not love what we do for living (which is JOB).

    So, those feelings are simply an indication that we are living our passion and that brings pride when I think of this 🙂

    Just my two cents!

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    • Donna Merrill
      May 27, 2014 at 3:35 pm #

      Hi Kumar,

      So true. When I think back (a very long time ago) when I worked for an employer, I did not have these feelings at all during a holiday break.

      Being an Entrepreneur for such a long time taught me how to over come these feelings. I used to have them back in the day. I remember when I had my offline business and worked more than I would two full time jobs. I even worked holidays because it was a little shop and that’s where I made most of my money.

      Those days are behind me now and it sure feels good. But, being an on line marketer and blogger can carry the same emotions.

      It took a while for me to get unplugged and just take some time off, but I’m proud to say that I’ve accomplished that with no negative feelings.

      Thanks for your awesome comment,

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  35. Ravi Chahar
    May 27, 2014 at 5:49 am #

    Hi Donna,

    Again you brought a great point to think upon. There are many reasons for not taking rest or enjoying on holidays. It’s the matter of situation. As being a part time blogger it’ good to work on holidays for me but for bust entrepreneur like you holidays are the time to spend with your family.

    It’s really good to know about the feelings you have described. I mean we can’t even think as if holiday can bring guilt feelings to anyone. Don’t know but may be it is.

    When someone work so hard and doesn’t want to miss even a single chance to work then taking holiday can be hard. But family is also important, everyone should spend some quality time with their family and friends.

    Thanks for writing such a great post and making me aware about such feelings.
    Have a nice weekend.

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    • Donna Merrill
      May 27, 2014 at 3:19 pm #

      Hi Ravi,

      Glad to know you have become aware of these feelings from this post. As a full time Entrepreneur, it is a must that we take breaks without guilt.

      It is difficult to do sometimes because we tend to be always thinking of our business. But, we got into this business so we can spend time with our family and friends.

      So, bottom line is that breaks are necessary so we can clear our minds and be refreshed when we get back into business.

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  36. Harleena Singh
    May 27, 2014 at 5:14 am #

    Hi Donna,

    Is that you!? Awesome, and you are really having a ball I must say 🙂

    Loved the post, and I was just nodding my head in agreement, again, been there done ALL of that, and still in a tight situation half the time. Yes, one tends to keep getting the thoughts of “I should be”, or ” I have to” or ” I cannot take it off” – oh my! The guilt just doesn’t leave you.

    I remember the last three years, ever since I’ve started blogging, there’s never been a time when I haven’t carried my laptop with me. And that means, you ARE working even when you don’t want to, even when you shouldn’t be. After all, holidays are meant for taking it really off, and a complete break to be with your loved ones – and not sitting and blogging or commenting.

    You are right, even if your readers are from different cultures, they respect the time you take away, just like you respect the time they take away, this is one wonderful thing about bloggers I feel, though it doesn’t happen always.

    So, these summer holidays, I’d really be taking it off, no blog, no comment, nothing. Just be with my family and myself…I certainly need that ‘me’ time break to recharge myself. We might be traveling and visiting places and my Dad too, just as we do each year, but yes, before I do that, I’d certainly be putting up a post and letting my readers know about it. I know they’d all understand, and they really do, because they are right back with open arms to welcome you once you return. It’s just that we feel about how and what they would feel 🙂

    Thanks for sharing, and hope you are enjoying your little break. Take it easy replying to these comments too – we understand 😉
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    • Donna Merrill
      May 27, 2014 at 11:49 am #

      Hi Harleena,

      Sure that is me lol! I like to lead by example not matter how silly I may look.

      I no longer take my laptop with me when I’m visiting, or even when my brain needs a break. Sometimes people ask me “what are you doing for the holidays?” I never quite know because I like to be spontaneous.

      Yes there are some religious holidays I observe and know what I’ll be doing, but other than that, many holidays and weekends roll around.

      When I look at employees, I see them taking breaks, leaving their work behind. So why not an Entrepreneur?

      It is so important for us to live a balanced lifestyle. We need to take our time and learn how to focus all our attention when we are “working” and then re-focus for our “me time.”

      It does take some practice, but we can do it and must in order to enjoy our life. We got into this for that purpose! So why not live it.

      And yes, as we work with people all over the world, we do respect their holidays. This is what is so exciting to me personally. I get to learn holidays and traditions from many different cultures.

      It is thrilling to celebrate with others virtually and learn different customs, food, and celebrations. I’m right there with them and will be when they return.

      So in essence, we have to look at what we do as a world wide business. We do understand all our friends and business partners celebrating, or just taking a break.

      Everyone is always there when we return!

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  37. Ryan Biddulph
    May 27, 2014 at 3:59 am #

    Hope you enjoyed your Wiffle Ball break Donna 😉 Detach. Enjoy your lifestyle. As for me, where I live, I never know when the holidays are, and since I’m 12 hours or 14 – soon to be 17, in Fiji 😉 – ahead of you east coast guys, I work anyway lol….but I know to detach too, when I feel ready to let go, or totally worn out.

    May be on a holiday, or another day. I listen to my body more than anything else.
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    • Donna Merrill
      May 27, 2014 at 11:28 am #

      Hi Ryan,

      You hop around so much, it is difficult to keep up with where you are. But what I do admire about you is that you blog so much whilst living your dreams.

      Yes, it can be a holiday, or whatever, but it is so true when you say that you listen to your body more than anything else.

      Now..for more wiffel ball lol,

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  38. Cheenu Lott
    May 27, 2014 at 3:44 am #

    Good post ! Your are absolutely right. Like others, entrepreneurs are also humans not robots. In fact, they need a break once in a while so that they feel energetic after coming back from vacations and can concentrate more.

    • Donna Merrill
      May 29, 2014 at 1:14 pm #

      Hi Cheenu,

      Yes we are not robots! It is so easy for us to slip into a pattern that keeps us plugged in all the time. But what good is that? Like you mention…we do fee more energetic after coming back from vacations. This will help us concentrate and focus more on what we are doing with a fresh mind.

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  39. Monisha Kapur
    May 26, 2014 at 7:49 pm #


    Great post!! You are absolutely right that it’s so important to take a break every once and a while, it really help clears the mind. But, I’m guilty of not taking breaks… Sick as a dog this weekend but I still felt bad lying down to take it easy and instead worked on emails…. But now, I’m giving in- I won’t do myself good if I get sicker…. Time to take a break, to heal and to make sure I continue to take breaks!!!

    Thanks again for this post. It’s exactly what the Dr. ordered 🙂
    – Monisha

    • Donna Merrill
      May 27, 2014 at 11:21 am #

      Hi Monisha,

      Knowing you for such a long time, I know you are very task oriented and like to “get the job done.” But my dear, when you are not feeling well, you need to take that break to heal. Otherwise you will just get worse!

      Do I sense you feeling guilty? Hmmmm Don’t worry about those emails girl, people will be there, so take your time and feel better!

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