This post was most recently updated on February 23rd, 2014
For many years, I have been doing psychic readings. I built up an awesome professional practice as a psychic consultant in Nyack, New York. “Mind over Matter”, as my practice was called, caught on so fast that it became a 7 day a week undertaking. When I moved away, my clients followed me via phone and Skype.
“A psychic”, you say?
Now, don’t poo poo it so fast! You can check out the page on this blog that explains exactly what I do. I’m not the kind of psychic that will read your palm for $5 and lead you into buying a marble for $100 to get rid of your black aura. I run an ethical, no-nonsense practice that actually helps people achieve their goals.
In the last few years my practice has evolved somewhat. I got interested in internet marketing, both for myself and my clients.
The economy was falling apart and an increasing number of my clients were getting laid off or living in fear of getting laid off. When I discovered that there was a way to make money on the internet either full or part time, I got pretty excited. I found I could reach out to more people, and develop better consulting methodologies online.
I also wanted to develop something for clients to use as a back door income, either full or part time. I started teaching what I learned. Even if my clients stuck to their careers, they could now be exposed to an opportunity to build some extra income. This was important to me because I could feel big changes brewing for the economy.
That said, the top subject always on the minds of my clients remains… Love.
I find that their love lives and relationships is an overwhelming concern.
They could be in any walk of life… housewives, business folks, detectives, therapists… I’ve even got a couple forensic psychiatrists that I consult with. Even among marketers who come to me for coaching,
I worked with one online marketer, for example, whose spouse doesn’t want her blogging. He insists she’s wasting her time.
Conflict in the home is actually a pretty common concern among online marketers. Professional goals are one thing, but Love and Relationships weigh the heaviest on us. And that, in turn, has a major effect on our ability to achieve our professional goals!
Another scenario is the marketer who spends so much time working and doesn’t have any time for Dating!
Where do they go? What do they do? This also can be a distraction to their business. I like to offer ways to assist them so that they can be at peace, find a partner, and have their lives a little more settled. That achieved, they can then re-focus on their business.
When Love and Relationships rock your boat. What do you do?
Is it taking too much time out of your day?
Are you discouraged?
Do you want to throw in the towel to keep your relationship together?
Do you know how to balance your relationship?
Are you bummed out because you cannot find a date?
Have the people that you are dating think that you are nuts for being an online entrepreneur?
Feel free to comment below or ask me a question. Also Let me know what YOU need to know.
Blessings,
Donna
Hi Donna,
I recently got married ( love is in the air)and my husband doesn’t even have a FB profile so imagine his views on my online entrepreneurship!!! However, he is changing and thanks to the great Eric Worre and other amazing teachers online, he is getting excited about network marketing. I am so grateful for his support and know that our very different talents and skills will merge well as we grow in our new life together. I am a very strong believer that you must have the support of your partner or spouse in order to become successful in whatever endeavor you decide upon. What I do know is that balance is very important in life and so my computer goes off each evening and weekend! I spend that time with family. During the day I juggle my day-job and my online marketing! It is a juggle but I would rather go slow than lose the precious time I have with my family in the evenings and at weekends.
Clare
clare recently posted..April is Autism Awareness Month
Thanks Donna for the wonderful post! Helping others find other means to earn income is great and having others support you in your endeavors is also something that can be very helpful to you. Knowing that someone has your back and is willing to voice out their opinions when needed is a very good motivator for your business.
Oh how I love this post Donna! I can relate to the blogger whose husband does not want her to blog lol. I am new to blogging and my husband gets it but he doesn’t. I have had a desire to be a blogger for 6+ years and I would start and stop until finally I gave up altogether. However, with the downturn of the economy I knew if I wanted to have control of my finances, I needed to follow my heart to be an entrepreneur. I believe my husband will come around. We have to find a balance in all our relationships. Thanks for this awesome post.
Anecia Finch recently posted..Hold On To Your Dreams
Twitter: donna_tribe
March 30, 2012 at 9:59 pm #
Hi Anecia,
You are not alone! I hear this all the time from so many women. Their husbands expect instant gratification! If you are not making money in one month, get a job. NO WAY! If you have wanted to do this over 6 years, you are an entrepreneur and need to take a shot at it. You may fall and skin your knees several times, but seems to me like you are strong enough to put earplugs in your ears and keep on going. Good luck with it, and I will visit you!
Donna
Donna Merrill recently posted..The Art of Active Listening
Great post, Donna! I think that something that far too many of us do is take some things for granted or focus too much on one part of our life. I’ll be the first to admit that I have been having all kinds of problems finding an equilibrium for all of my stuff in life these days. (I remember the absolute nadir was when I decided that I would only focus on the main parts of my agenda until I got finished, and to my disappointment, I ended up finally being done at 2:00 in the morning.) Sometimes, creative destruction is necessary to get things done, but the key is figuring out the right thing to do. Then again, in these stressed-out times, don’t we all?
Steve Nicholas recently posted..Looking Good or Doing Good?
Twitter: donna_tribe
March 29, 2012 at 4:05 am #
Yes, Steve we all have those times. But my question is to you What is really important as we walk on this planet? Simple answer: Love
That is our main priority. We can work till the wee hours of the morning, we can learn until our brains are busting, but we need to love ourselves first.
We also need people around us that we “accept” love from an give that our time, even if we have to write it in our appointment books!
Thanks
Donna
Donna Merrill recently posted..The Art of Active Listening
such a great post!I’m a type of those who never has got any time for dating… I can’t remember when I used to date…
Julie recently posted..cheapest dental implants
Twitter: donna_tribe
March 25, 2012 at 4:34 am #
You have to take the time to date my friend! I talk to so many hi energy gorgeous women like you. Did you ever try computer dating like eharmony?
There are many successful men you can weed through.
Donna
Donna Merrill recently posted..Mari Smith and Guy Kawasaki March 28th Event
Donna,
If those who are seeking love are on line so much wouldn’t it make sense to find a like-mined, like-hearted person through the net? I am blessed not having to seek a life partner at this point in my life. I haven’t a clue what I’d to about “dating.” I feel for those in love turmoil because it is such an essential human need. Maybe they get a little vicarious love through your blog. (Of course, not a substitute.)
If love is a necessity then people might consider getting up from the computer and feeding that need. It’s the same thing as taking a mental break or eating something. You’ve got to get away from the puter. Heck, my eyes are crossed by the end of the day. Not good. Should take may own advise. Think I’ll go for a walk.
Thanks for making us THINK, once again!
In Clarity and Happiness,
RICK
Rick Lelchuk recently posted..Our Ask
Twitter: donna_tribe
March 20, 2012 at 10:35 pm #
Hey Rick I love your comment! Yes, people need to consider getting up from the computer and feeding the need of love and relationships. It all starts with communication if your partner is not happy with your on line work.
As far as dating, that takes so much time that I consider it a part time job. But those who need to have a partner in their life have to set aside time to do it.
This is why I wrote this, so people can realize how important relationships are in their lives.
Thanks for visiting,
Donna
Donna Merrill recently posted..Love And The Entrepreneur
I’m blessed to have a husband who doesn’t fuss about all the time I spend on line. I could see his point if he gets irritated by it because it’s almost a full-time job for me (something I do on weekends too) but hardly make any money at all.
He’s a very patient man. I’m so blessed to have him.
Anne recently posted..Confidence Quotes
Twitter: donna_tribe
March 19, 2012 at 8:25 pm #
Hey Anne, Happy to hear that. It is so important that our other half is on our side. As you might know, David Merrill is my husband and is in the same business. We are on line all the time. His way of teaching people is awesome (but he is an M.Ed.) so teaching comes more natural for him. Also all those technical things I cannot be bothered with, he helps me out with.
I, on the other hand tend to the Social Media as you might know. He is all thumbs with that. So it is a perfect ying/yang relationship at our house.
The funny thing is we sit here in cyber space bliss. We have turned our dining room into a large office. But when the kids come to visit they look at us like they are ready to put us in the nursing home ha ha ha …
Most people don’t understand us at all but we are happy and look forward each day to work side by side.
Life is good.
Donna
Donna Merrill recently posted..Love And The Entrepreneur
Thank you for sharing. Not to many people in your position are so gracious. Your article was very poignant and understandable. It helped me to understand very clearly. Thank you for your help.
Ahighbloodpressurediet.com
Twitter: donna_tribe
March 19, 2012 at 8:21 pm #
Hi Laura, I am so happy that this helped you understand things more clearly and thanks for visiting!
Donna
Donna Merrill recently posted..Love And The Entrepreneur
I think the power of intuition is incredible and I think some people have this gift in a larger measure than other people. I think it is wonderful that you can operate this business on the internet. My wife is a hypnotherapist and while it is a bit more challenging to have a session over the phone, she still has had some success with things like suggestion therapy.
It is quite amazing how the things that people want most in life seem to be the same, someone to love them, someone to love; no matter who the people that are wanting them. And I think that is pretty awesome that you developed a way to teach people what you knew. I bet you have many very happy students. 🙂
Michael recently posted..A Cup Of Instant Coffee
Twitter: donna_tribe
March 19, 2012 at 7:56 pm #
Yes, if there is one most important thing in the world it would be Love. I have clients from every path of life and it Always gets down to Love. As human creatures we need to give it and receive it.
Business is business, but when our love and relationship part of our lives are imbalanced, it does effect our business.
It is like being thirsty and there is nothing to drink.
Thanks for your input and wise words,
Donna
Donna Merrill recently posted..Love And The Entrepreneur
Hi Donna,
My business takes me a lot of time but I decided not to work during weekends and it helps me maintain the relationships with my family and friends.
Edyta recently posted..Panic Away Review – An Honest Opinion of the Most Revolutionary Anti-anxiety Program Around
Twitter: donna_tribe
March 16, 2012 at 10:04 pm #
Ahhh… now there is a balance Edyta! It is so important to take time out especially for our family and friends. I usually keep Sunday a day to spend with family.
Thanks for visiting,
Donna
Donna Merrill recently posted..Love And The Entrepreneur
Oh hear hear, Donna!
This is one subject that is a little touchy for many folks – I know because I’ve been in this business for some time now and have seen just how impactful spousal opinion/expectation may be!
I think that it’s always important to start off on the “same page” with one’s significant other, where ever possible.
It’s idealistic, yes, but when communication and expectations are not meshing between partners it can create huge inner and outer chaos.
The responsibility rests squarely on our own shoulders to be adults about what we want and need. We must be the ones to share this with our partners so that they can know better how to support us.
True, some partners may just oppose everything; however, I would challenge folks to make sure they are being vocal about what they DESIRE prior to just starting up things and expecting their partner to just “get it.” Not all couples have that psychic connection where they just “tune in,” accept, and support. – For that reason, we must sometimes be the squeaky wheel, letting our partners know of our intentions, allowing them the space to have an opinion which both parties will acknowledge up front. This way partners may ACT like partners for one another.
At the end of the day, life, business, AND love are delicate negotiations. 🙂
Cat
Twitter: donna_tribe
March 16, 2012 at 9:05 pm #
Awesome Cat! I like what you say that partners may ACT like partners for one another. Unfortunately, I have a lot of feedback from some of my clients that their partners are giving them such a difficult time in this business. It is understandable because it is a slow start. But COMMUNICATION is the key here.
When we learn how to communicate effectively, we can get through to our partners a timeline that we set our goals for. We don’t have to explain the whole plan, but rather just say “give me a …and I’ll let you know when the cash is rolling in.”
Just a compromise!
Donna
Donna Merrill recently posted..Love And The Entrepreneur
Yes Donna! I think that’s really what it all boils down to, just as you said: COMMUNICATION!
I really wish we all had such finely tuned intuitions and were moved deeply to follow them and be supportive in the ways our partners need…but unfortunately most of us are not calibrated to those frequencies, so it’s truly up to us to prioritize how we communicate with our partners so they may “get it.”
When we do not do this initially, it’s just sort of a false-start. And then it’s tough imposing our expectations on a partner who perhaps didn’t (or couldn’t) “know better.”
I’m so happy that you’re able to offer credible insight into the matter for others who are struggling. Sometimes people just can’t see what’s in front of them because we lose perspective being “inside” of something. – Makes it hard to see the other person’s perspective.
Cheers for good communication and compromises between loving partners! 😀
Have a beautiful weekend!!
Cat
Twitter: donna_tribe
March 19, 2012 at 7:43 pm #
Thanks Cat for your insights. When we do have a “higher” understanding, it is wise to remember our communication skills. So many people EXPECT and there is where I see things fall apart.
Expectations from another person will always let you down. Viewing the person by their repeated behavior is the best bet! The action is where the truth lies.
Awesome comment my friend,
Donna
Donna Merrill recently posted..Love And The Entrepreneur
Twitter: marquitaherald
March 15, 2012 at 8:51 pm #
Not at all surprised your clients followed you Donna – and I (also) agree with your approach. After my divorce – and swearing off EVER getting married again – I chose to channel my energy into volunteering and community outreach I’ve never regreted that – and I suppose that is a form of sharing love.
marquita herald recently posted..When is Your Future Behind You?
Twitter: donna_tribe
March 15, 2012 at 10:14 pm #
Yes it is Marty! Love has to be shared and looks to me like you found a great outlet. I never gave up on love. It took me many relationships, two ex husbands to find out who I really was. Then, I met David 21 years ago.
I was ready then. I had to do a lot of work on myself and realize that I was more well deserving than I thought I was. Bottom line, that good old Law of Attraction kicked in and voila….I met David. At first he wasn’t my “type” but that was a good thing because my “type” always got me into a mess.
When we grow, and we realize our needs, the right man shows up.
Hugs,
Donna
Donna Merrill recently posted..Love And The Entrepreneur
Twitter: workingonthego
March 15, 2012 at 4:31 pm #
Hi Donna,
Many thanks for sharing this post. So many people tell us when we work on line that we are wasting our time. The main reason I find is because people do not understand what we are doing and it is more about other people’s fear of change and doing something new. Take care Rosemary
Twitter: donna_tribe
March 15, 2012 at 6:29 pm #
Thanks Rosemary, I know I hear that a lot from family and friends. It takes too much time to explain it to them, so I always say “I’m doing good” But when I encounter someone who tells me I’m wasting my time, I ask them if they have ever done it before.
The reply is almost always No. So I just ignore the negative and keep on my positive flow.
I am grateful that my husband is in the same business because we encourage each other.
We have our morning masterminds over coffee the first thing in our day. All phones are shut, and so is our computer for our Daily Method of Operation that we bounce off each other every morning.
Thank you for commenting,
Donna
Donna Merrill recently posted..Love And The Entrepreneur
Hey Donna! Knew there was something about you that I found so very intriguing! My own mom is a psychic! She is nearly 80 years old now and to this day she gets people who call her for readings. She has people calling from all over the world! I have an engineering background so am not typically someone who goes by anything other than what can be measured but I have heard my mom tell perfect strangers who they are, what they do, give them details about things that only they would know and it has always been “unsettling” for me to hear how accurate she can be.
Twitter: donna_tribe
March 15, 2012 at 6:48 pm #
Aha Stevie My kids feel the same way about me. I have an International clients that call every day. I leave time in my day to do this business because it is my primary one. It is one that I enjoy and will never give up. People do get freaked out sometimes because they think I can always “see” what’s going on with them.
Truth is I don’t unless they ask me, then I turn on my psychic switch. There is a fine line my friend between psychic and psycho. If I kept my third eye on all the time, I would be living in a different plane.
I like being Me! I use my psychic energy when I am “working”
I am also the biggest skeptic you will ever want to meet because I have studied parapsychology, psychology and quantum mechanics. I needed that scientific evidence that I wasn’t nuts he he he
Thanks for your comment and I would really like to get a reading from your mom.
People that know me won’t read me. They are put off from my energy – silly isn’t it?
Thanks again,
Donna
Donna Merrill recently posted..Love And The Entrepreneur
Twitter: AdrienneSmith40
March 15, 2012 at 1:25 pm #
I have no doubt Donna that you are VERY good at what you do. I happen to have some friends with your same talent.
I really don’t even worry about all of that because I’ve lived alone for the past 22 years. At this time in my life, my business is much more important than dating so that’s a non issue with me as well. I’m sure some day I’ll be ready to take that plunge but for now, life is fabulous.
So glad you’re helping so many people Donna. I’m sure you are a huge success.
~Adrienne
Adrienne recently posted..Facebook Fan Page Tips And Tricks
Twitter: donna_tribe
March 15, 2012 at 5:52 pm #
Hi Adrienne,
I wrote this post because people I’ve been coaching have come up with the relationship or dating factor. It takes time away from their business ventures if it is a negative in their lives.
I always think of dating as a part time job lol! But the reality is that it does take time out of your life to do so.
With regard to relationships, if all is going well be grateful! But there are some people out there that have partners who put pressure on them. In this line of business, as you know, it takes us so much time in front of our computers each and every day. I do it full time and so does my husband so I’m lucky and also grateful. But some people have partners that are constantly discouraging them. Now that can become a big problem.
This is why I focused on relationships because it can be great with an encouraging partner or disaster with a discouraging one.
Thanks for sharing,
Donna
Donna Merrill recently posted..Love And The Entrepreneur
I was discouraged when I went through my divorce, but I had a great support system. I just recently went through a breakup and I was upset, but I really am at the point in my life that I will just allow love to happen if and when it does. I am in no hurry to get hitched these days. So, I took a couple days, re-focused and then got back to my plans for myself and my son.
Nile recently posted..6 Basic Ways to Becoming a Better Blogger
Twitter: donna_tribe
March 15, 2012 at 5:41 pm #
Hi Nile, Keeping your plans set on yourself and your son is a great way to go. Break ups are like death, we need time to mourn our loss of the relationship.
Good to see that after all you went through, you are not in a hurry to get hitched! It takes time to mourn, then re-evaluate YOUR needs.
We all grow and after breaking up, the good thing that can come from it is that we can look at it and see what our needs really are. I often tell people it is just another stage of growth. Yes, it hurts for a while, but life goes on. Focusing on your son is the best thing you can do right now.
Thanks for your input, I appreciate it,
Donna
Donna Merrill recently posted..Love And The Entrepreneur
This is so true. It doesn’t matter what you do or how you do it, there is always an underlying driving force in life which is the power of your relationships (love). I know when there is conflict in any of my close relationships, it throws everything off. I can’t work right, can’t eat right, can’t sleep right. But I could have the worst day at work and if I know I have my husband at the end… it’s fine and I can deal with it.
It takes time and practice and energy to really make a relationship work. We take it for granted that if we want to be good at our jobs, we have to learn, practice and improve, right? So when it comes to relationships, why do we expect them to be right/good/easy without any effort at all??
Here is something that a very wise cousin once said to me and something that really made me think. Right before I got married she said, “Love is not always 50/50. Sometimes its 90/10. Sometimes you’re going to have to give everything and get nothing.”
Honestly, I always remember that, and that’s how I balance my relationships. Sometimes you have to give. Sometimes you have to ask. And there is no score column!
Carol Lynn Rivera recently posted..Are your marketing materials ugly? Yes and No. Here’s why and how to avoid it.
Twitter: donna_tribe
March 14, 2012 at 4:59 pm #
Great response Carol Lynn,
Yes, if there is a problem in your relationship, it certainly can throw you off track. Love is a very important thing! We all need it and if it is not balanced, we put it first and our business becomes unbalanced.
Just as you said above, it does take practice and energy to make a relationship work. Just like doing our jobs we practice to improve it.
I enjoyed your cousin’s advice! It is so true that there is no score column.
Thanks for your input,
Donna
Donna Merrill recently posted..Love And The Entrepreneur
Hi Donna,
no doubt in my mind that you are doing an ethical no-nonsense job in your consulting !
The fact that you also consult with internet marketers or internet marketing-related problems only proves that the internet finally has “arrived.” (Who would have doubted that ?) But what I mean is that it has become a normal part of our life whereas some people just don’t get it and think people who blog for example are wasting their time. People watch soccer and football matches, too. What is that, anyway, if not a waste of time, but if someone chose to watch a sports match, that’s perfectly OK, just as choosing to blog.
Well, my wife and I navigated through rocky waters too in the past years and we had a coach. However, we found it hard to find someone who doesn’t interfer with us because of their own agenda (or issues). Finally all you need is a medium.
Thanks for sharing your insights.
Be blessed
Oliver
Twitter: donna_tribe
March 14, 2012 at 4:55 pm #
Hi Oliver, thanks for commenting – you flatter me lol. Good to see your wife and you have reached a strong medium. Many people I talk to have issues in their relationships because one of the partners get fed up with the other one spending so much time on the computer for their business.
Good to know that you and your wife are working together!
Thanks for stopping by,
Donna
Donna Merrill recently posted..Love And The Entrepreneur