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Boost Your Blog With Social Media

This post was most recently updated on July 31st, 2016

https://www.donnamerrilltribe.comYou can boost your blog with social media by crafting a daily work plan… and sticking to it.

Social media sites are pretty hard to ignore if you are trying to build a successful blog, or any other online business for that matter.

Always remember that you are the face of your blog and you need to establish a robust social media presence in order to gain recognition and attract visitors to your site.  

As you work hard to attract attention via social media, though, it’s important to remember that nothing you do and say on these sites will ever go away… it will always be there.  

Now, this is great in terms of building an evolving story of who you are, and what your blog is about.  But it can be hazardous if you put out content that can harm your reputation, or undermine your brand.

Very recently I read a story about a highly acclaimed political campaign manager who was removed from his position because of some controversial comments he made on his social media channels nearly a decade ago. 

Unwritten Rules

Although you want to stand out and attract attention in the social media crowd, there is a certain etiquette you need to follow.  

I always liken social media to a party in slow motion. 

Think of it for a moment. 

If you went to a party where you didn’t know most of the people, what comes to mind? 

Proper clothing depending when and where the party is.  You wouldn’t wear your sweats to a wedding!  There is a certain dress code to abide by when mingling socially… it is an unspoken, but essential etiquette. 

Presenting yourself on social media sites is no different.

Here are some of the rules to be mindful of.

Be Approachable

At the party, you walk into the room with a smile would be on your face.  Don’t you?

That in itself is a welcome signal to others. 

The same goes on with social media.

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You always want to be approachable.  This is setting your tone and it has to come from an honest place, not a fake one.  

Involve yourself in conversations, but don’t be a know-it-all, or a hard nosed “expert.”

Probably the biggest part of being approachable is to never post sales links (spam), and don’t ask people to join you in a business, or visit your site of private page.  

This looks an awful lot like hawking and spamming and people will no want to approach you.  In fact, they’ll avoid you like the plague.

Focus On Others

When you are at a party it is not proper to go up to a stranger or an acquaintance  and bore them to death talking all about yourself.  You can clear the room out if you do that and the same applies on social media sites. 

“Look at ME”  will never grab attention. 

Instead, talk about things others have said, give them credit for their shares or insights, and mention them by name often.  

This shows that you’re more interested in your friends and contacts, than in yourself and your business.

As you scan down and see your friends post something that you are honestly interested in, like and comment. 

Give them a thank you for posting this because… “You have brightened my day,” “you have just encouraged me,” etc. 

Now you are getting somewhere.  You are using etiquette while giving a little recognition and feel-good acclaim to others.

Don’t overwhelm people.  Consistently share good value to your friends, but don’t be the person at the party who just never takes a breath.  

Let others talk, too.  Sometimes it’s more important to be a good listener than talker.  

In fact, urge others to have their say by asking questions that bring them into the conversation.

It’s one thing to say “I’m looking to add a dog to my family, and my favorite breed is the hound.”  

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But how much more engaging it is to say, “I’m looking to add a dog to my family.  What’s your favorite dog breed?  I appreciate the help!”

When you’re at a party, is it better to say “look at my beautiful dress, doesn’t it fit me perfectly?” or “I love your dress, and it fits you just perfectly!”

Build Relationships

As you like and comment on inspirational quotes and photos of our friends puppies and kittens, be aware that relationships  go deeper than that. 

Indeed, this is how you get to know people more intimately, and vice versa. 

Their pets, children, spouses, lifestyle are important to them.  Recognize that and celebrate it along with them. 

We are on social media to get to know each other well and congratulate our friends on their achievements and also be there if they need a virtual hug.

When you see someone has started a conversation, jump in and help out.  Try to keep the momentum going for them, and they’ll appreciate you.

Go a step further and make sure to recognize others who have also joined the conversation.  Refer to them by name. Example: “Debbie made a good point.  I think I’ll give it a try.”

You don’t have to be afraid to be a bit controversial at times, but nobody’s going to want to hang out with you or get to know you better if you’re blatantly offensive or just like to get arguments started.

I avoid talking about religion and politics with my social media contacts, just like I do when I’m with family.

I’d also caution you about going on negative or scathing rants about things, unless you’re doing it in good fun.

There are times when you might complain about things, but don’t overdo it.

Nobody wants to hang out with the person at a party who has nothing but bad news and attitude to share.

Interact honestly, authentically and compassionately when you’re on social media sites.

Use these interactions to get more deeply attuned to others, and when the occasion arises, to share more of yourself with them.

This is how you start building relationships.

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Give Value

Don’t be the silly person at the party who laughs at nothing and talks about the weather just to keep everyone’s eyes on her.  

Don’t just say things to keep your profile visible. 

Post things that help people overcome obstacles, or things that are fun or informational.

This will help keep people actually interested in what you have to say.

Curate content that others will find useful, and interject your own wisdom when it’s truly helpful.

Even then, avoid constantly reminding people to visit your blog.  

You can do that occasionally, but really only 10% of your commenting should even remotely appear to be self serving and promotional.

Be informative and always willing to help others.

People like to hang out with people who make their lives better, not folks who just waste their time in order to prop themselves up, or score points in the popularity pool.

Work Within The Confines Of A Clear Strategy

Social media is an awesome place to get to know people, and for them to get to know you and gain incentive to visit your blog.

While it’s primarily built on social interaction,  you have to keep some strategic planning in mind because you are there to get eyes on your business.  

So don’t just jump on social media randomly.  Develop a strategic strategy that you can implement consistently.

Most importantly, limit your time.

Don’t get caught up in spending all your time engaged in idle chatter on social media.  It’s easy to do, but will do little to build your business.

Write down a precise plan for just how much time you’ll spend each day commenting on your friends’ posts, quotes and photos of puppies and kittens.  

Then, schedule time to go deeper than that.  

Do some of your own posting, engage within groups of like-minded people, answer questions and ask questions.

Divide your time the best you see fit among these activities.

Most important, limit your time according to your business plan.  For some people, a half an hour a day is fine, but others may need to spend an hour or two.  I don’t think there are too many people that would need to spend more time than that, and an hour is probably a good goal for most.

The important thing is to spend the same amount of time on a daily basis.

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What strategy do you use to boost your blog with social media?

I’d love to have your comments below.


Donna Merrill
Donna is a well known blogger and creator of "Blogging Magic" - an intensive guide to blogging. "Blogging Magic" is for beginners who are trying to figure out how to bring their blogs to life with tons of visits, comments and social media interaction. It's even for advanced bloggers looking to reach new levels of authority and engagement with their audience.

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72 Responses to Boost Your Blog With Social Media

  1. Sandeep September 21, 2015 at 1:28 am #

    Thanks for sharing with us Donna Madam.

    We all know social media can create a viral traffic on our blog and that’s why we use it.Your tips will help us alot.
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    • Donna Merrill September 21, 2015 at 10:07 am #

      Hi Sandeep,

      Good to know you have enjoyed the tips. Social media can create a lot of viral traffic only when it is done appropriately.

      Thanks for stopping by,

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  2. Kore Duke
    September 20, 2015 at 2:03 am #

    Hi Donna,

    This is an extraordinary post on boosting a blog on social media and I enjoyed reading every bit of it.

    One thing I find inappropriate on social media is when someone comments on any post just to say something irrelevant and add a link. The other day I was on facebook and someone asked a question, I was about writing a reply when I saw a comment above mine asking people to vote for his friend by clicking on a link.

    Social media should be used in building meaningful relationships, for focus and adding value.
    What happens online doesn’t always stay online.

    I agree with you on having a clear strategy. Time is valuable so every bit of it shouldn’t be spend on social media.

    Thanks for sharing.

    Have a great day!

    • Donna Merrill September 21, 2015 at 10:06 am #

      Hi Kore,

      Great to know you have enjoyed this post. I do agree with you 100% when social media is done inappropriate way like you have mentioned. Some people just never learn. I had things like that happen to me once in a while. When it does, I delete the comment, then either block the user, or if I know them well, will PM them telling them why.

      If however, it continues, I will go ahead and “report abuse” because some spammers out there just won’t quit!

      Social media is just that … social! And as long as we use it with a clear strategy in mind, it can go a long way!

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  3. Monna Ellithorpe
    September 10, 2015 at 1:51 pm #

    Hi Donna,

    Great post. I made my way here from your 2nd Periscope video. You are doing great with that. I’ve yet to try it but do plan on it.

    I really like this comment you made: “I always liken social media to a party in slow motion.” That is so true. Your other points about using proper etiquette online just as if you were facing someone in real life are so true.

    It sometimes seems like a lot of people have the attitude of “What happens online stays online.” Which it does but do we really want people to forever see our rants and raves that day you didn’t feel well or had a headache or whatever got your knickers in a bunch that day.

    Thanks for sharing.
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    • Donna Merrill September 11, 2015 at 10:31 pm #

      Hi Monna,

      I’m so glad you came here via my periscope. Thanks for liking my quote “social media is a party in slow motion” It’s the way I see it.

      With a little common sense and etiquette it can go a long way. What goes on social media does stay on Social Media. One slip and Whoops……

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  4. BG Jenkins
    August 24, 2015 at 8:26 am #

    Hi Donna, Etiquette is essential at this “slow moving party,” and you wear it well. You have so many valid points here that we should all look at these points, and our posts, with a critical eye and adjust accordingly. Our posts can either attract of detract from the elements of the conversation, and we want to as the hosts of our blogs, or social media posts, be gracious and generous with great value and interaction with those we are connected with. Thanks for these valuable tips.
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    • Donna Merrill August 27, 2015 at 9:23 am #

      Hi BG,

      It is so true, our posts can attract or detract from the elements of conversation. We always need to be gracious and especially generous.

      Practicing etiquette on our blogs and social media is so important.

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  5. Nikhil
    August 23, 2015 at 4:19 pm #

    I got to read an important article for my social media strategy. If I conclude the complete post, then I can say that the motive of this post is to push people towards the naturality. We are the human being so we should behave like that.

    As we behave in the real life, we should act similarly on the social media. I must say It is one of the best blog posts that I have read on the Internet so far. Focusing, building relationships and giving value are the three important ingredients that must be used while you spend time on social media. Along with them, we should build a social media strategy that can get us business from social networks.

    Be open for all. Help others. Give people suggestions. But, you should be addictive of social media. Your time is valuable. So, set a definite time to interact with people on social media.

    In the end, thanks for this post and wishing you a great life Donna…..
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    • Donna Merrill August 27, 2015 at 9:13 am #

      Hi Nikhil

      When developing a social media strategy, it is all about building relationships with others. As long as we are honest when we communicate, we are fine! We do have to put others first, by sharing their blogs. Then when someone starts a conversation on the social platforms, we cannot just go over and press like, but go further and comment…a good one lol.

      All this with our business in mind of course. We want to engage with others that eventually we can help further for free or from the products/services we have for them.

      Yes…”Be open for all.help others and give suggestions” as you mention. That is the key.

      But, As long as we follow a time line in our daily social media sharing, it will be effective. We cannot let it take too much of our time.

      Thanks for your great input,

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  6. Saurabh Tiwari
    August 21, 2015 at 12:30 pm #

    Hi Donna Ma,am,

    Indeed a great post which contains bunch of useful information regarding how to boost your blog/website with social media. Well you have shared the actual method which is useful in this scenario.

    Thanks for sharing such a fantastic post.

    Have a great weekend.

  7. Willena Flewelling
    August 19, 2015 at 6:24 pm #

    I like your party analogy, Donna. If I go a friend’s party, I think of it as HER day, not mine, so why would I draw unnecessary attention to myself and what I have to offer? At the very least, it’s a social event, not a business gathering for me to promote myself.

    I like it when my social media friends share personal things, because not only does it make them real to me as people, but I don’t feel so much like their ONLY purpose for being on social media is to promote their opportunity.
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    • Donna Merrill August 19, 2015 at 9:13 pm #

      Hi Willena

      You sure make a great point here and it comes down to common sense. When people are behaving in a way whereby they are communicating “look at me” most of us have a knee jerk reaction to just turn away…far away.

      On social media we can connect with others when things resonate with us…When we come across someone that is constantly promoting, it is time to block. lol

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  8. Jacs Henderson
    August 15, 2015 at 7:39 pm #

    Right Donna! Social media is the place to boost our blog and brand, but as you say, it is a social platform and we should speak as we would with our friends…

    Your party examples gave me a huge smile! We can all remember the people we meet who pick the wrong option in your scenarios!!

    Interact honestly, authentically and compassionately were FANTASTIC words from you, and you have really showed the way with how to conduct yourself in this public arena 🙂

    Developing a strategy IS definitely advantageous, and consistency is Key!

    Thank you for this Social Media Booster ?
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    • Donna Merrill August 16, 2015 at 1:11 pm #

      Hi Jacs,

      So good to know I made you smile with my party analogy. I often use that one. But it is quite true. We wouldn’t go to a party and be obnoxious starting every conversation with “I” Rather, meet people and ask a question, give a compliment and so on.

      As long as we do that authentically, people will resonate with us.

      Glad you enjoyed the post.

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  9. Vinton Samms
    August 9, 2015 at 9:46 pm #

    Hi Donna,
    Thanks for this post filled with tips on the social media. It is to be remembered that this is a place where people go to be social with each other and therefore it should remain that way. Even if we are to use it for business, to capture the attention of persons who hang out there, this too should be done with some amount of care, sincerity and sensitivity.
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    • Donna Merrill August 13, 2015 at 2:07 pm #

      Hi Vinton,

      Indeed! When I see you on Facebook you are always posting positive things. Feel good stuff! You sure know how to use it!

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  10. Lillian De Jesus
    August 9, 2015 at 9:10 pm #

    Hi Donna,

    Great points on social media activity! I really appreciate you pointing out the rants. Sometimes I find some rants can reveal a lot about people in a negative light. People need to be very careful with what they say. I also listened to a podcast that someone did a Periscope and asked for advice. When they received the advice from a few followers they didn’t like and rudely stated that the advice wasn’t helpful. With that social media activity, a potential conference holder saw that Periscope and felt that they were too rude to participate as a speaker. That was an opportunity lost. What a shame to lose an opportunity such as that.

    Thanks for sharing!
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    • Donna Merrill August 13, 2015 at 2:06 pm #

      Hi Lillian,

      Oh those rants..Thanks for sharing that rant of the person on Periscope. Only goes to show if one is negative, people run away!

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  11. Vashishtha Kapoor
    August 9, 2015 at 5:54 pm #

    Nice writeup Donna mam.
    The day I started following your blog was an amazing day as it made me to learn so many cool things about blogging and promotion. Social media content distribution is yet another root cause in which most of the bloggers fail and quit at the middle of the way.
    Thanks for teaching one more amazing lesson about social media marketing.
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    • Donna Merrill August 13, 2015 at 2:05 pm #

      Hi Vashishtha,

      I am so glad to know that you like what you are reading from my blog. Social media is part of blogging ad marketing. It all connects together.

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  12. Kathryn Maclean
    August 9, 2015 at 4:25 pm #

    I really liked this article, well I like all your articles, but this one is very special.

    Great analogy of walking into a party in slow motion. Who you chat with and how you do it, by helping and appreciating others.

    Social media is a great place to get to know people.Also for them to get to know you and this can lead to incentive to visit your blog. In my case blog(s).

    Having strategic planning in mind, planning your schedule for every day, because you are there to get eyes on your business. Not just to be social for social’s sake.

    I do not just jump on social media randomly. I have developed a strategic strategy that I implement consistently. I have a record for every day and how much time I spend by using a timer. Especially when on Facebook. I aim for no more than a half hour at a time.

    Thanks for the great article on boosting your blog with social media Donna.

    Making a plan for posting, and using a timer on facebook are my guides.
    10% of your commenting should even remotely appear to be self serving and promotional.
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    • Donna Merrill August 13, 2015 at 2:04 pm #

      Hi Kathryn,

      Yes that party in slow motion is a good way to look at social media lol. It is so great that you have a strategic planning. One cannot jump randomly on social media…we need a plan and I see how well you are doing

      Awesome plan you have!

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  13. Deborah A. Ten Brink
    August 8, 2015 at 12:40 pm #

    Glad you are back and writing excellent posts like this one Donna!

    One thing that always amazes me is the quality of not only your posts, but the fantastic comments you receive! There is a wealth of knowledge just to be learned by reading all of your fabulous commentators experiences. 😉

    Another chocked-full-of-value post! I need to share this because everything you have said here should be "common sense" but so many lack common sense and need to understand that whatever you share will still be around decades later (maybe even longer!). I often think of controversial celebrities and the crazy things you see about them in the news… what will their future children or grandchildren think? By now, their parents see and know as well.

    I always remember what my Mother taught me when I was a teenager: "I can't be with you every moment of your day. When you think about doing or saying something, pretend I'm standing right next to you. Would you make the same decision?"

    This has served me well all of my life. Your words are from the voice of experience. Thank you for sharing your social media wisdom Donna!

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    • Donna Merrill August 8, 2015 at 2:21 pm #

      Hi Deborah,

      Yes, it is common sense but so many people don’t use it, especially on social media. Is it really their fault? Sometimes, but other times their so called “mentors” or up-lines in a company will teach them to drop links, create content of “look at me!” or “buy me!”

      Other than that, there are those who post stuff that is negative attention grabbers. For me, it doesn’t work so I delete them if that is all they are doing. I don’t need my social media accounts to be full of negativity.

      I like what you mother has told you. A wise lesson that sticks the rest of your life. But unfortunately not everyone had a mother like yours lol.

      My mom always brought me up with the quote “Do unto others as you would have the do unto You” That’s one that has always stuck with me and is deep in my mindset.

      It’s great to be back and thanks for coming by,

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  14. Joy Healey
    August 8, 2015 at 9:18 am #

    Hi Donna

    Great post about the pros and cons of social media.

    You picked up on going on negative or scathing rants, unless you’re doing it in good fun, which is a good point – of course sometimes what I find as fun, if “read” without the fun tone of voice, can be taken the wrong way LOL

    Tagging for unrelated posts is a complete no-no for me and if it’s done by a stranger (yes it happens) ZAP – they’re gone, and even reported if it’s an offensive post.

    The other problem I have with tagging – and perhaps you can add your expertise here, please – presumably the posts can only appear on my personal profile?

    Well I keep my personal and business Facebook life completely separate because my family are pretty scathing about my business (time spent vs not yet a millionaire – hahah) and business related posts are likely to attract snarky comments. I know this says more about them than about me, but I appreciate that they’re totally uninterested in my business and don’t want to see it.

    I’d really value your feedback on how you would handle this situation. At one level I’m grateful for bloggers tagging me in relevant posts, but I want them on my business page not my personal profile.

    I’ve never dug too deeply into if I can do this and hopefully it’s something easy peasy and I’ll look silly not to already know – but if I could find a way out, that would be great.

    Anyway – rabbited on too long – really appreciate all your other helpful tips.

    Have a great weekend. Joy
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    • Donna Merrill August 8, 2015 at 2:15 pm #

      Hi Joy,

      When it comes to tagging on my regular profile I really don’t mind it if it is something whereby a person has mentioned me in a blog or something else. It is a notification and I do appreciate it.

      Sometimes people will tag 25 people about something, me included, and if it is not a about business I just untag myself.

      But..if it is from someone I don’t know well and it is totally irrelevant, or even worse…a sales offer, they are blocked and reported for abuse immediately.

      As to your question of separating things to go on your Facebook Page, I think the only way to do that is to ask the person to please like your page and post it. The problem there is that on our business page, it can create a lot of noise that is not controlled by you. So think of that one lol.

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  15. Chery Schmidt
    August 7, 2015 at 10:52 pm #

    Hello Donna, I do agree we all need to just keep our eyes open and to be approachable on social media. It is so important to stay positive HUH?

    It really gets to me when i see people complaining about others or their business or anything really on FaceBook or other social media sites.

    REALLY? If you are having a bad day stay offline and get over it before you start posting. People DO NOT want to hear about your problems they have enough of their own.

    Great Share my friend.
    Thanks and do have an Amazing weekend ahead.
    Chery :))
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    • Donna Merrill August 8, 2015 at 2:09 pm #

      Hi Chery,

      You are so approachable online. When I think of you I see your face and holding a sign with a great saying on it. It is your “brand” and you are always posting uplifting things wherever I see you.

      Indeed, If we are having a bad day…don’t even open the computer!

      Thanks and a happy weekend to you,

      Donna Merrill recently posted..How To Keep Your Blog Going When You Are UnpluggedMy Profile

  16. Enock Machodi
    August 7, 2015 at 1:10 pm #

    Hi Donna,

    You surely gave value here and I couldn’t agree more with the tips you’ve outlined here. Though in itself social media management is hectic, it shouldn’t be ignored at all costs. At any given time social media acts as a virtual platform where people meet to exchange ideas, which is similar to what happens in our physical lives. So it is important that social media is used to connect and build meaningful relationships online.

    Speaking of building relationships, this is not a debatable matter. If you don’t build healthy relationships with people in your circles, you shouldn’t expect to succeed. Success online depends on who you know online, otherwise just being on your own is a recipe for disaster and total failure.

    I second you on relationship building Donna.

    Thank you.
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    • Donna Merrill August 8, 2015 at 2:07 pm #

      Hi Enock,

      I sure know your values by now and it doesn’t surprise me at all that you do agree with this post.

      Social media can be crazy at times, but as we control the keyboard, we can pick and choose those who we want to socialize with.

      Indeed we do need to develop healthy relationships in our circles in order to succeed. I do agree that our success online depends on who you know there.

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  17. Sherman Smith August 6, 2015 at 4:21 pm #

    Hey Donna,

    Social Media etiquette as far as online marketing needs to be reiterated constantly. I do admit that I didn’t have the best etiquette when I first came on the scene 5 years ago but it’s through tips like these that helps a lot.

    I haven’t been engaging too much in social media lately but I do make an effort to share great posts and mention the author. This has been my routine for the past couple of months and it’s been working out great.

    But this was a great post for me to put on my next roundup or for the following month. Thanks for the share Donna! Have a good one!
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    • Donna Merrill August 7, 2015 at 11:02 am #

      Hi Sherman,

      There is never enough to say about the etiquette we all must have on social media. We share posts, but more than that, we can connect with others and really get to know people.

      Minding our manners may sound old fashion, but it sure works well. I was grown up by the saying “if you don’t have something nice to say, don’t say it at all” and it always worked for me during my life time.

      Why pull in the negative, when we can stay in the positive? The energy is more bountiful!

      Thanks for stopping by and your kind words.

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  18. Ryan Biddulph
    August 6, 2015 at 4:08 pm #

    Hi Donna,


    You have all the basics down. Be approachable.

    I smile like mad on social sites to build bonds easily.

    Social gets so much easier to work, blog-wise, when you have fun on Facebook and Twitter.

    Thanks for sharing 🙂

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    • Donna Merrill August 7, 2015 at 10:58 am #

      Hi Ryan,

      Thanks for coming by. Yes, be approachable says it all. Social media is a place to meet and greet people and have some fun and get to know them better.

      I appreciate you coming by especially during your travels.

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  19. ikechi
    August 6, 2015 at 6:36 am #

    Hi Donna

    An interesting article and one that is very important.

    Social media is an awesome platform for building relationships plus it is a cool place for exposure.

    Sadly, there are strange practices that go on Social Media which won’t even make sense in offline. You have highlighted most of them and I love that you reveal ways to fix such issue.

    I have a timetable of which Social platforms I engage for the day. Thus helps me not to be overwhelmed by the rapid Social activity.

    Thanks for sharing. Have an awesome week.

    • Donna Merrill August 6, 2015 at 12:09 pm #

      Hi Ikechi,

      It is wise of you to follow a timetable on social platforms that you engage for the day. Structure is important when it comes to the social media sites. If not, it can eat up all your time.

      It is a great place to build relationships, but only positive ones lol.

      There is a lot of strange stuff out there, but the good thing is that we can scroll down and ignore it.

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  20. Rachel
    August 5, 2015 at 11:13 pm #

    Hey Donna,

    Great post. I took quiet a bit from it. I was never sure about keeping chatter going. I reply on Twitter and then get a response and have never been sure if I should keep it going, but you cleared that up for me.

    I am a very comfortable with etiquette, I work well with structure and etiquette fits well there. But could you guide me to a post (either yours or someone you know) – I have a bit of a dilemma when it comes to links.

    What is the etiquette when you add a link. As I am just new I am never writing about what is trending, so I go in search of links with people I don’t know. I have been uncomfortable with the process I am using at the moment. I find a post that I get a bit excited over because it will compliment my post. Do I write a comment and at the end say I am going to use your post as a link (that is what I have been doing at the moment). How else do I go about it? I am very unclear of the procedure and because I love rules, I never want to come across as taking someone for granted. I await your response.

    Thanks for a great post.


    • Donna Merrill August 6, 2015 at 12:06 pm #

      Hi Rachel,

      I’m not quite sure what you mean by adding a link. If I read this correctly, you are wondering when to link to your blog? I use Premium CommentLuv for that if I want the post I read to complement one of my posts.

      I suggest you look into that. But keep in mind as a blogger that we don’t always have to stay in our niche. It is all about connecting to others.

      Now, when you’re commenting on blogs or on Facebook, you don’t want to be linking back to your own blog posts too often. In fact, do it rarely. It looks too promotional. In fact, one of the great things about CommentLuv is that it automatically links to your blog posts without you looking like you’re aggressively promoting yourself.

      If you don’t know which blogs have CommentLuv, just do a google search for blogs in your niche that are CommentLuv enabled. So your search might be something like “Cooking blogs + CommentLuv enabled.”

      If this doesn’t clarify what you are asking, please feel fee to Facebook Message me and we can find a way to connect so I can help you further via skype or phone.

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  21. Susan cooper
    August 5, 2015 at 10:48 pm #

    Hi Donna, great post and I love your comparisons to going to a party. Nobody likes those dopes at parties who just have to be the center of attention, and that is what some bloggers remind me of. “Look at me, look at me” like children at a swimming pool begging for someone to watch their bellyflop into the pool. People tire of this behavior very very quickly. Think it is so much more important to building relationships by helping others and focus on them. What you put out there will come back to you…both good and bad. 🙂
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    • Donna Merrill August 6, 2015 at 11:39 am #

      Hi Susan,

      Indeed, Those “look at me” people are just so boring. I like your analogy that they are like children at a swimming pool begging for people to watch them do a bellyflop he he he.

      Yes, people do tire of this behavior very quickly and it is a darn shame that there are still those out there that do it.

      As long as we are set out to help others, and build relationships, we are on the right track.

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  22. Cararta
    August 5, 2015 at 3:17 pm #

    Hi Donna,

    A great reminder to do what my grandmother used to say. Mind your manners and be helpful, like people and they will like you.

    Another thing she like to say was Think about what you are going to say before you say it. What you give out returns.

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    • Donna Merrill August 6, 2015 at 11:32 am #

      Hi Cararta,

      Your grandmother was spot on. Mind your manners and be helpful is something that we must all follow.

      Think before you speak is another great one. My dad used to tell me that when I was a child. It is engrained in my mind. It sure works well and avoids problematic situations.

      Best of all What you give out returns – Living that way is the best. Giving unconditionally without expecting something in return, is how to live a life in harmony. The return is always tenfold!

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  23. Atish Ranjan
    August 4, 2015 at 7:39 pm #


    This is an amazing blog post on social media. What I have done within 4.5 years of blogging is I have built a strong and healthy relationship with my fellow bloggers, like you, and with my blog readers.

    I have tried helping everyone who approached me for some help, that helped me build a good credibility.

    One thing is important that never say anything on social media that adversely affect your reputation because whatever you speak, will always there, and people will criticize you for this. So you must remember “think before you speak” saying.

    Thanks for this good post, Donna.
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    • Donna Merrill August 6, 2015 at 11:14 am #

      Hi Atish,

      You sure have built a powerful relationship with fellow bloggers and you always give such great information.

      You are one person that will help others and that is the reputation you have built for yourself.

      Yes, we have to always remember that whatever we say on social media will be there forever. Never give into any negative conversations is the way to go.

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  24. Adrienne
    August 4, 2015 at 12:59 pm #

    Well done Donna, thanks for bringing this up because we all need social media to spread the word about what we do but just like anything else online there is a right way and a wrong way to go about this.

    I hear so many people say that if they were to go to a party then they would be the ones standing in the corner by themselves afraid to speak to anyone. I think that if you’re online building a business then you immediately need to work on that because as we both know, this is a people business.

    I like what you’ve shared and of course used the analogy of going to a party because I feel the same way. We don’t instantly make friends at a party but we do have a few people that will grab our attention the most and we’ll want to pursue that connection maybe a little more. So that’s exactly what we need to do online but it has to start with them and not us. It’s not about us, it’s about what we can do for them and just starting a friendly conversation. Just like picking something out of their profile or their about me page and mentioning what you might have in common.

    Social media is called social for a reason. The sooner people understand that the better off they’ll be and the more attention they’ll start to get and the connections they’ll be able to make.

    Thank you for making this so clear for everyone Donna. You’re the best and I’m off to share this one as well. Enjoy your week now.

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    • Donna Merrill August 5, 2015 at 1:28 pm #

      Hi Adrienne.

      I like the way you have elaborated on the topic of social media is like a party. Indeed, we cannot be a wall flower. We have to get over that and start talking to others. Through social media we do make connections with others that we find have a common point.

      Sometimes it can be business, or a passion. One of my passions is dogs as you well know lol. I connect with others that love their dogs and we become friends.

      There are so many ways to connect and yes this is a people business. Whatever we do or say can either make us or break us.

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  25. Sylviane Nuccio
    August 4, 2015 at 9:50 am #

    Hi Donna,

    There are many sad stories of people who have shot themselves in the foot for having said something they couldn’t take back on social media.

    To me one of the worst behaviors I see on social media, is Facebook. People putting stuff they hate and horrendous on their own walls because they want to share it and tell other people how bad that is. But this, not only makes them look bad too, if someone were to look at their wall, but they don’t even know that they are actually spreading what they hate.

    I think that your wall and pages on Facebook it’s a bit like a little blog of yours, and what’s on their represent YOU.

    There’s also the fact that some people can be very rude on their comments, I’ve seen that even on Linkedin, but as you said, if those people thought of commenting on social media like talking to someone at a party they wouldn’t do that.

    The reason why potential employers take social media into account before hiring someone it’s because what you say and post on there really represents you.

    Either they don’t realize that, or they are showing the true ugly about themselves. Probably a little bit of both.

    Thanks for another great post and will share on social media 🙂
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    • Donna Merrill August 5, 2015 at 1:25 pm #

      Hi Sylviane,

      You sure do bring up great points here and I so agree. Everything we do on any social media platform stays there forever.

      I like the way you mentioned that everything on Facebook is like your blog. You wouldn’t want to do hateful things, or get into negativity there.

      Yes, employers these days do look at someone’s social media accounts. And if you have your own business or service, others will too.

      If you represent yourself in any negative way on social media, no one will follow you but other negative people.

      We always have to have our business mindset on when we are on blogs and/or social media because it represents who we are.

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  26. Sue Bride
    August 3, 2015 at 9:29 pm #

    This is excellent advice, Donna, thank you. You mean to treat it like a grown up party and not the sort where you drink yourself silly when you’re young. -or was that only me 🙂

    I don’t like being tagged indiscriminately either but I don’t mind if someone does it to draw my attention to something they know I’ll find interesting.

    I recently read that being tagged is good for your reputation on FB, the more mentions you get the better. Do you think that’s true?
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    • Donna Merrill August 4, 2015 at 1:43 pm #

      Hi Sue,

      Yes, a grown up party…absolutely lol.

      About being tagged, I’m not sure if it is good, but I do find it annoying if it has nothing to do with me.

      However, I’ll tag often when sharing a blog, or if I mentioned someone in my blog.

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  27. Stella Chiu
    August 3, 2015 at 5:34 pm #


    I concur with the tips of etiquette in using social media. I particularly like your comparison of engagement in soical media with the real life party in slow motion. We really to approach social media with cautions. We have to conscious when. where, or who we engage with. We have to act accordingly.

    I particularly appreciate your reminding us to limit the time according the business. Most of the time. I found myself so overwhelming with social media by using so much time in it.

    Thanks again – Stella
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    • Donna Merrill August 4, 2015 at 1:31 pm #

      Hi Stella,

      When using etiquette on social media, we can better connect with others. Being humble, helpful, and sharing others is always the best practice.

      So true, we do have to be conscious of when when, where and who we engage with.

      Yes time is an integral part of it all. We have to discipline ourselves and construct our day according to time. We can easily get sucked into a social site, but time is precious. If we only allow ourselves a particular time and then stop, we can be more productive in many other ways.

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  28. Corina Ramos
    August 3, 2015 at 4:36 pm #

    I love this post Donna!

    I have to echo what some of the others said. I’ve seen constantly post their stuff and not share other posts much less acknowledge those who have shared, retweeted or commented their posts, not a one.

    But, I can’t throw stones because there are times I can’t get to a reply or post and I feel horrible when I do. So for many, I can understand because it does get busy but for the ones who are blatant, that’s another story and I’m afraid they’ll learn the hard way.

    The tips you shared in your post are spot on. I love your comparison of going to a party and being online. I’ll be sharing this on for sure!

    I have a list of bloggers who are my favorites I have to visit and comment on and others I find from sites like Triberr or if someone shares it on their social media page, I’ll read it and share.

    Hope you’re week and month started off great!

    Take care,
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    • Donna Merrill August 4, 2015 at 1:26 pm #

      Hi Cori,

      When it comes to social media, I always thought of it as a part in slow motion and mention that all the time to folks. Putting ourselves in that mindset is a great way to “mingle” with others.

      When asking yourself what would I do if this was a real party? Eventually you start getting on the right track of mingling.

      Sharing is caring! I like to share posts right after I leave a comment. Why not? We are all in this together and if we all pitch in, we can all win.

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  29. Mark
    August 3, 2015 at 2:10 pm #

    Such excellent and extremely sound advice as always Donna!

    And I love your comment about not wearing sweats to a wedding!
    Of course, I think we gotta throw in no jeans with holes in them either!LOL!

    I really like your advice about “how to” mention your likes, but
    mix them in with questions so you engage and edify others!

    That is so extremely important, if you wanna build long lasting,
    truly meaningful relationships!

    You simply can’t go wrong with the solid advice you’re sharing Coach!

    Thanks so much! If only I’d known half of this when I first started out
    stumbling all over myself on social media, especially twitter!!LOL!
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    • Donna Merrill August 4, 2015 at 1:18 pm #

      Hi Mark,

      Thanks so much for your feedback here. Yes..that analogy about wearing sweats or ripped jeans to a wedding is something to keep in mind.

      There are so many ways to build relationships appropriately. That’s what we need to keep in mind.

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  30. Don Purdum
    August 3, 2015 at 12:28 pm #

    Hi Donna,

    Social media… oh that social media… one more social thing to keep up with, lol…

    Great advice as always. Over the last few months I’ve neglected Facebook big time as I’ve focused on some other things. I know I should probably be a little more active there than I am but I love to spend time on Twitter and LinkedIn where it seems my audience is primarily hanging out and engaging with me.

    Back onto the Facebook horse I go. I really do like it as a tool to share a bit of me and my life and help my friends feel they can get to know me a little better and I them.

    But like you said I have to be careful of the time sucking machine, lol…

    Thanks for some constructive advice and for sharing your ideas and positions on things to post and not post. I actually had someone tell me once that sports was as off limits as politics and religion.

    Well, I’m ignoring that one, lol… As long as it’s tasteful and not disrespectful or over the top I think that sports can be fun, entertaining and engaging. So, you will start seeing some New England Patriots posts coming real soon, lol…

    Chat with you soon Donna. Would love to get together on the phone soon and learn how I can encourage you guys!

    ~ Don Purdum
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    • Donna Merrill August 3, 2015 at 5:29 pm #

      Hi Don,

      I do notice you are big with LinkedIn, so I usually share your posts there first because that’s where your peeps hang out. I also like to share it on Google+ for recognition. In my circle, people take things seriously.

      Facebook is great to get others to know a bit more about you…like your adorable dogs. As for sports…I always see your enthusiasm for the Patriots. Heck, I just became a fan myself lol. Living here in New England you just can’t help it. And I don’t think it is inappropriate the way you share the love of sports.

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  31. Brenda Lee
    August 3, 2015 at 12:06 pm #

    Happy Monday, Donna!

    Like some said, I can’t believe how it would even work having a blog without promotion. But not just promotion of your own blog, but of others so you can network and build communities. I am all about sharing the love on Twitter, Facebook, and a few of my other networks. Nothing like helping fellow bloggers out. However, I’ve found not all bloggers are alike. Some are all about them and not building relationships. Those are the ones I stay away from and do not promote. If you can’t hold a conversation with me, you don’t deserve my efforts to help promote your site.

    Oh and for the record, I really don’t have a strategy. I share almost all day long during the work week and a little on the weekends. Weekends are my family time and social media detox time. 🙂

    Great article Donna! You know I’ll be sharing!

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    • Donna Merrill August 3, 2015 at 5:25 pm #

      Hi Bren,

      I always look forward to your updates on Facebook with your dogs. As a dog lover myself, it is a “bonding” issue. You are sharing so much joy. You are wonderful with social media because you are yourself and that is something many cannot do.

      Promoting others is what I do each time I read a blog. Depending on that person’s favorite place that’s where I share it….several places too.

      But if I encounter a “selfish” person, I’m out! lol. Thank goodness I do have so many people on social media that are go givers.

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  32. Marquita Herald
    August 3, 2015 at 8:17 am #

    Well said – as always Donna! For me the take away is having a plan because otherwise it’s so easy to loose sight of the big picture. For that I have to keep bringing myself back to why I’m doing all of this in the first place. Part of that is being mindful about the content I share because that becomes as much a part of my branding as anything I personally write.

    I was reminded of this not long ago when I went to update my author page at Amazon (which includes my latest blog post and Twitter updates) and saw a couple of recent tweets of articles I had shared – good articles but not exactly in line with the brand image I’m cultivating with my readers. In the massive and rapid moving feed on Twitter these things are just part of the masses, but when a new or potential reader clicks that link to learn more about an author these kinds of things stand out like a neon sign!
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    • Donna Merrill August 3, 2015 at 5:21 pm #

      Hi Marquita,

      Sounds like you are doing a fantastic job! No time wasted, but you have a strategy. That is what we need to be mindful about our content we share as we brand ourselves.

      Being polite, helpful and honest I find are the best practices. I see you are aware of cultivating your readers and that, my friend is what we need to do.

      Thanks so much for your input,

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  33. Monisha Kapur
    August 3, 2015 at 8:04 am #

    Hi Donna,

    Great post!!! yes, social media can definitely be a time drain and you are so right that it is very important to schedule “social media time”. something I know I need to get better at…
    What one posts is also equally important. I’ve noticed that the social media posts that get the most engagement are ones that I ask questions or get followers to offer their opinion.

    Thanks for the great advice Donna!
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    • Donna Merrill August 3, 2015 at 5:19 pm #

      Hi Monisha,

      Sometimes we get so involved with social media, time flies so quickly. Making a plan of action works well. Writing your blog post, marketing, learning….oh that list goes on and on. And if we write it all down we can then spend little time on social media and do it to benefit ourselves.

      Getting to know people via social media is great…but our time is money and we need to put that in our mindset.

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  34. Lisa Sicard
    August 3, 2015 at 7:02 am #

    HI Donna, some great tips! It always amazes me when I see bloggers or businesses only tweet about their own stuff, time and time again. Don’t they realize people will stop following them or unfriend them? I really like your idea of setting time limits on social media, some days I can spend hours on Twitter etc and not even realize it. A buzzer would be ideal. Thanks for sharing these Donna and I hope you have a wonderful new week.
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    • Donna Merrill August 3, 2015 at 5:16 pm #

      Hi Lisa,

      Indeed, a buzzer will work if you find yourself spending too much time on Twitter. It does take a lot of discipline not to do this.

      But when you put things in perspective and write down the tasks of your day, we do have to do the most important first. Planning and having a strategic motivation works well.

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  35. Renard Moreau
    August 3, 2015 at 5:22 am #

    [ Smiles ] We cannot neglect the power of social media and its ability to promote our content.

    Unfortunately, not everyone is well-versed in the area of Human Relations.

    I also liked the part where you advised us not to get caught up in idle chatter on social media.

    Do have yourself a blessed week!
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  36. Enstine Muki
    August 3, 2015 at 4:11 am #

    Interesting tips Donna and the fist post I’m reading this Monday morning 😉

    Yes it’s hard to neglect social media but the wrong approach makes one think it’s not working.

    Some folks really sound like bots on social media. They just copy and paste stuffs with no notion of value or relationship building.

    Some tag others irresponsibly and that’s one thing I hate. Don’t tag someone because you’ve written what you think is a “great” post. Tag people when you mention them on your posts.

    I love your conclusion on defining a strategy. Social media is a big time distraction. If you don’t follow a plan, you can spend time on it doing nothing productive.

    Nb: If you don’t plan to succeed, you are actually planning to fail 😉
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    • Donna Merrill August 3, 2015 at 5:13 pm #

      Hi Enstine,

      So true…I hate it when someone tags me for some unrelated post. It’s just so rude! I untag and delete all the time. Indeed, the only time we can tag someone is if we mentioned them in a post.

      Social media can take a huge chunk of your time if not done with a strategy in mind. I like what you wrote: “If you don’t plan to succeed, you are actually planning to fail” Awesome!

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